Chabwino, ndikudziwa kuti izi ndi zopusa ndipo pali mavuto akuluakulu padziko lapansi, komabe. Nkhani ya Instagram ya chibwenzi changa ili ndi zithunzi za galu wake, adzukulu ake komanso ma mowa omwe amakonda, koma kawirikawiri satumiza zithunzi za ine kapena awirife. (Takhala limodzi kwa zaka zingapo—pali zinthu zambiri zimene mungachite.) Kodi ndiyenera kuda nkhawa kuti amandichititsa manyazi, kapena ndimangodzikayikira? Ndikufuna kuzifotokoza, chifukwa zimandivutitsa, koma sindikufuna kuoneka ngati bwenzi lopenga lomwe limandikakamiza kuti ndiwonetsedwe pa IG yake.
Choyamba, tiyeni tikambirane momwe mwayankhira funso lanu. Nawa mawu omwe mumagwiritsa ntchito pofotokoza nkhawa zanu, komanso momwe mumawopa nkhawa zanu:
- Zopusa
- Manyazi
- Paranoid
- Wopenga
- Kufuna
Uwu! Mfundo yakuti mwakhala mukugwiritsa ntchito izi kwa zaka zambiri, komanso chinenero chomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito, chimandiuza kuti mukhoza kukhala ndi zolemba zamkati za inu nokha. Kalanga, simuli nokha. Ambiri aife timakhala ndi gremlin pang'ono kapena wotsutsa wamkati mkati mwa malingaliro athu. Tingadziuze tokha mtundu wa zinthu zomwe sitingavomereze ngakhale kwa mlendo m’khwalala.
Kodi mungalankhule bwanji ndi mnzanu wapamtima amene ali ndi vuto lomweli? Kodi mungadzipangireko zina mwa kukoma mtima kumeneku? Ngati mungathe kuchita izi, mosakayikira zidzakutumikirani muzochitika izi ndi zina zambiri. Tsopano, tiyeni tiwone zomwe mungachite kuti muthetse nkhawa zanu ndi bwenzi lanu.
1. Khalani ndi chidwi
Ndikufuna ndikuthokozeni chifukwa chofunsa izi m'malo mongoganiza kuti zomwe mukuchita ndi zoona. Ndikosavuta kugwera mumsampha wakuwerenga malingaliro, kapena kulingalira zomwe ena akuganiza, ngakhale sitikudziwa. Pamene mukuyesera kudziwa zomwe zikuchitika m'maganizo a bwenzi lanu, mukuzindikiranso kuti simunafunse munthu yekhayo amene angakupatseni yankho limenelo: iye. Khalani ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zambiri, chifukwa chidzakhala chothandiza mukamalankhulana. Koma choyamba, tiyeni titembenuzire chidwi chathu kwa munthu yemwe mungamudziwe bwino ndikumuwongolera: inu.
2. Wonjezerani kawonedwe kanu
Kodi muyenera kuda nkhawa kuti akutumiza zithunzi zambiri za agalu ndi mowa kuposa zithunzi zingapo zikutanthauza kuti akuchita manyazi ndi inu?
Ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muwonjezere malingaliro anu pano kuti muzindikire kuti pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe anthu amachitira momwe amachitira. Mwina amangokonda agalu a Instagram; mwina amaona moyo wake wachikondi kukhala wachinsinsi; mwina angafune kuti asakhale wosawonetsa poyera.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti, sindingathe kukuuzani zomwe zikuchitika kwa iye, panonso kuti mutha kuwerenga malingaliro ake. Koma kudzikumbutsa kuti pali mafotokozedwe ochulukirapo ndi njira imodzi yodziwira kuti muzitha kukambirana naye komanso inu nokha.
3. Basi funsani
Sindikudziwa zomwe bwenzi lanu likuganiza komanso kumva. Koma ndikudziwa kuti njira yokhayo yodziwira ndi kumufunsa. Ngati akumva momwe mukuwopa, kapena ndizovuta kwambiri, ndikukhulupirira kuti ndi bwino kudziwa izi.
Koma mupatseni ngongole pang'ono ndikupatseni mwayi kuti ubalewo ukule mwa kuyeseza kulankhulana. Ngati mukhala limodzi zaka zambiri, ndikutsimikizirani kuti mudzakumana ndi zovuta zina. Choncho izi ndi zofunika kukonza ndi kuchita.
Ndikuyembekeza kuti ndondomekozi zikuthandizira, koma ndikuganiza kuti phindu lenileni lidzabwera kuchokera ku kuphunzira kuvomereza nkhawa zanu motsutsana ndi kudziweruza nokha chifukwa chokhala ndi nkhawa; kufunsa chibwenzi chanu zomwe akuganiza motsutsana ndi kuyesa kulingalira; kupereka mwayi kwa ubalewo kuti ukule pobweretsa mitu yomwe ingathe kuyambitsa chisokonezo ngati sichiyankhulidwa.
Sarah Greenberg, MFT, ndi psychotherapist, mphunzitsi wovomerezeka wa board komanso mlangizi wazoyambitsa matenda amisala / chitukuko cha anthu. Mutha kulumikizana naye LinkedIn , kudzera tsamba lake , kapena kudzera mugawo lake Psychology Today .
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