Reshma Qureshi anali ndi zaka 17 pomwe mlamu wake wakale adamuthira asidi kumaso. Komabe, iye anakana kuti zimene zinachitikazo zimuuze tsogolo lake. Amagawana ulendo wake ndi Femina.
'Ndinaletsedwa chithandizo chamankhwala kwa maola anayi. Ine ndi banja langa tinapita ku zipatala ziwiri kuti tikalandire chithandizo mwamsanga koma tinakanidwa chifukwa chosowa MOYO. Mosowa chochita ndiponso chifukwa chofuna thandizo mwamsanga, tinapita ku polisi, ndipo chimene chinatsatira chinali kufunsa mafunso kwa maola ambiri—nthawi yonseyi nkhope yanga ikuyaka chifukwa cha asidi. Ndipamene ndinayamba kutaya, wapolisi wachifundo anatithandiza kuyambitsa njira zachipatala. Komabe, panthawiyo ndinali nditasiya diso. Reshma Qureshi akufotokoza za vuto lalikulu lomwe iye ndi banja lake anakumana nalo patangopita mphindi zochepa kuchokera pamene mlamu wake, Jamaluddin, adamuthira asidi kumaso pa May 19, 2014.
Mnyamata wazaka 22 adachoka kunyumba (ku Allahabad) ndi mlongo Gulshan pamwambo pa tsiku la tsokalo. Pomwe amayenera kukayezetsa mayeso a Alimah, womalizayo adafulumira kukafika kupolisi popeza apolisi adapeza komwe kuli mwana wake yemwe adabedwa ndi mwamuna wake wakale, Jamaluddin (awiriwa adasudzulana basi. masabata angapo zisanachitike). Posakhalitsa, awiriwa adagwidwa ndi Jamaluddin, yemwe adafika pamalopo ndi achibale ake awiri. Alongowo atazindikira kuti pali ngozi, anayesetsa kuthawa, koma Reshma anagwidwa n’kumugwetsera pansi. Anandithira asidi kumaso konse. Ndikukhulupirira, mlongo wanga ndiye anali chandamale koma, panthawiyo, adandiukira, akutero.
Panthawiyi, dziko lake linali litasweka. Ndili ndi zaka 17 zokha panthawiyo, chochitikacho sichinangovulaza thupi komanso maganizo. Banja langa linasokonekera, ndipo mlongo wanga ankangokhalira kudziimba mlandu chifukwa cha zimene zinandichitikira. Miyezi ingapo pambuyo pa chithandizo, pamene ndinadziwona ndekha pagalasi, sindinathe kuzindikira mtsikanayo atayima pamenepo. Zinkawoneka ngati moyo wanga watha. Ndinayesera kudzipha kangapo; okhudzidwa, achibale anga adasinthana kukhala ndi ine 24 * 7, akufotokoza.
Chimene chinapangitsa mkhalidwewo kuipiraipira kwambiri chinali chizoloŵezi cha anthu choimbidwa mlandu ndi kuchita manyazi Reshma kaamba ka tsokalo. Ankabisa nkhope yake chifukwa cha khalidwe la anthu losakhudzidwa. Ndinayang’anizana ndi mafunso onga akuti, ‘N’chifukwa chiyani anakuukirani ndi asidi? Munachitanji?’ kapena ‘Wosauka, adzakwatiwa naye ndani.’ Kodi akazi osakwatiwa alibe tsogolo? amafunsa.
Reshma akuvomereza kuti vuto lalikulu kwa anthu omwe akukhudzidwa ndi asidi ndi kusalidwa ndi anthu. Amakakamizika kubisala kuseri kwa zitseko zotsekedwa chifukwa nthawi zambiri, olakwa amadziwika kwa iwo. M'malo mwake, monga momwe milandu yogwiririra, kuchuluka kwa asidi omwe amawunikidwa sikumapangitsanso mafayilo apolisi. Anthu angapo avulala chifukwa cha ngozi zawo zisanaperekedwe, ndipo apolisi ambiri m'midzi amakana kulemba zachiwembucho chifukwa ozunzidwawo amawadziwa bwino omwe adawaukira.
Inali nthawi imeneyi pamene Pangani Chikondi Osati Zipsera, bungwe lopanda phindu lomwe limabwezeretsa opulumuka ku asidi ku India, linabwera ngati dalitso lodzibisa. Adathandizira kulipira maopaleshoni ake ndipo posachedwa, adamangidwanso ku Los Angeles. Bungwe la NGO, pamodzi ndi banja langa, anali njira yothandizira kwambiri panthawi yovuta. Sindingathe kuwathokoza mokwanira pa chilichonse, akutero. Lero, wazaka 22 ndi nkhope ya Make Love Not Scars, ndipo CEO wake, Tania Singh wathandizira Reshma kulemba memoir yake— Kukhala Reshma , yomwe idatulutsidwa chaka chatha. Kupyolera mu bukhu lake, iye akufuna kulimbikitsa anthu omwe apulumuka asidi. Anthu amaiwala nkhope za masoka amene timawerenga tsiku lililonse. Ndikukhulupirira kuti buku langa limalimbikitsa anthu kuthana ndi nthawi zovuta kwambiri, ndikuzindikira kuti zoyipa zimatha.
Reshma adapereka madandaulo kwa olakwawo, ndipo mlandu ukupitilira. M’modzi wa iwo anapatsidwa chilango chochepa chifukwa anali wachichepere (17) pamene chochitikacho chinachitika. Anatulutsidwa chaka chatha. Nanenso ndinali ndi zaka 17. Kodi ndingatani kuti ndituluke mumkhalidwe umene ndinaikidwamo? akutero. Wopulumukayo akunena kuti ngakhale kuti malamulo oteteza anthu omwe akukhudzidwa ndi asidi ali m'malo, kukhazikitsa ndizovuta. Tiyenera kuyika ndalama m'ndende zambiri komanso makhothi ofulumira. Zotsalira m'milandu ndizochuluka kwambiri kotero kuti palibe chitsanzo choperekedwa kwa olakwira. Pakakhala kuopa zotsatirapo, olakwa amalingalira kawiri asanapanduke. Ku India, milandu imapitilira kwa zaka zambiri, zigawenga zimatuluka pa belo ndipo amamasulidwa msangamsanga kuti apereke mpata kwa akaidi atsopano, akufotokoza motero Reshma.
Patha zaka zisanu chiyambireni chiwembuchi, ndipo lero, Reshma wadzipereka kuphunzitsa anthu omwe ali pafupi naye za mchitidwe wonyansawu komanso mavuto omwe angabweretse kwa opulumuka. Khama lake pazimenezi zidamupatsa mwayi woyenda mumsewu wa New York Fashion Week mchaka cha 2016, zomwe zidamupanga kukhala woyamba kupulumuka pachiwopsezo cha asidi kutero. Zokumbukira za nsanja, Reshma akuvomereza, zidzakhazikika mu mtima mwake kosatha. Chitsanzo chiyenera kukhala changwiro-chokongola, chowonda, ndi chachitali. Ndinayenda mtunda waukulu kwambiri ngakhale kuti ndinali wopulumuka kuukira kwa asidi, ndipo zinandisonyeza nyonga ya kulimba mtima ndi mphamvu ya kukongola kwenikweni, iye akutero.
Reshma ndi wolemba, wachitsanzo, wotsutsa-acid, nkhope ya NGO, komanso wopulumuka pachiwopsezo cha asidi. M'zaka zikubwerazi, iye akufuna kukhala Ammayi. Kulimbana ndi tsoka kungatengere kulimba mtima kwanu konse, koma munthu ayenera kukumbukira kuti kwinakwake m’tsogolo ndi masiku amene mudzasekanso, masiku amene mudzaiwala zowawa zanu, masiku amene mudzasangalala kuti muli ndi moyo. Idzabwera, pang'onopang'ono komanso mopweteka, koma mudzakhalanso ndi moyo, akumaliza.
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