M'dziko langwiro, mwamuna wanu wam'tsogolo angakupulumutseni kuti musagunditsidwe ndi galimoto ya UPS pamene mukuvutika kuti mumasule Gucci slingback yanu kuchokera ku sewero kabati. Mumagwa m'manja mwa wina ndi mzake ndiyeno iye, dokotala wa opaleshoni (kubwerera kuchokera ku ulendo wa Madokotala Opanda Malire, mwachibadwa), angayang'ane m'maso mwanu ndikugwa m'chikondi kwambiri. Koma sindinu J.Lo, ndipo Matthew McConaughey ndi wokwatira-pepani amayi. Uwu ndi moyo weniweni, komwe kupeza bwenzi kuthengo ndikosowa ngati kupeza Gucci akugulitsidwa. M'malo mwake, anthu ambiri akulumikizana kudzera pazibwenzi zomwe zimakhala njira imodzi yomwe maanja amakumana, malinga ndi a Maphunziro a Yunivesite ya Stanford .
Ngakhale izi zimatipatsa chiyembekezo, tikudziwa kuti kuyenda pa intaneti yapadziko lonse lapansi pamasamba ochezera kungakhale kolemetsa komanso kokhumudwitsa kunena pang'ono. Ndicho chifukwa chake tinafikira kwa amayi enieni a 12 ochokera m'mayiko onse omwe adatha kuchita bwino ndikuwafunsa malangizo awo abwino kwambiri pa intaneti. Nzeru zawo, pansipa.
1. Yang'anani munthu amene angakuthandizeni
Dikirani amene akukupulumutsirani. Mwachitsanzo, pa chibwenzi chathu choyamba, Joey anaonetsetsa kuti wasankha malo pafupi ndi nyumba yanga ndipo panthaŵi yomwe inandipangitsa kukhala kosavuta kwa ine. Ndinkakhala ku Upper East Side panthawiyo, ndipo ankakhala ku Hell’s Kitchen (komwe ndi New York kutali ). Zinandisonyeza kuti amandikonda komanso moyo wanga, ndipo zinkamveka mosiyana kwambiri ndi maganizo akuti 'Hei, tiyeni tikumane' omwe nthawi zambiri mumawapeza pa mapulogalamu a zibwenzi - zomwe zinapangitsa kuti ndikhale m'banja zaka zinayi ndi theka ndi 19 - mwana wa mwezi. - Amy D., 35, Bronx, New York
2. Aduleni ngati sakukutumizirani mameseji
Ndinasudzulidwa-nditakwatiwa ndidakali wamng'ono-choncho zinali zowopsya kuyesa mapulogalamu a zibwenzi kwa nthawi yoyamba kumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 20s. Koma ndinaphunzira kuchokera m’ukwati woyamba uja kuti sindinafune kuwononga nthaŵi pa aliyense amene sanali kufika nthaŵi zambiri mokwanira. Ndikuganiza kuti kupita masiku ndikwabwino, ndi inu ayenera pitani pamasiku ngati mukufuna munthu amene mukutumizirana naye mameseji, koma ngati sakutumizirani uthenga munthawi yake, ingopitirirani. Aliyense amene akufunadi kukudziwani adzakudziwitsani. - Carra T., 29, Los Angeles
3. Jambulani mtundu wanu pamphepete
Ndinkauza anzanga osakwatiwa kuti azikhala omasuka ndipo asamatengere “mtundu” winawake. Ndinali pa nthawiyo. Mutha kuganiza kuti mumangokopeka ndi anyamata a blonde omwe ali ndi tsitsi ngati Thor kapena kuti aliyense wamfupi kuposa 5'6' alibe funso. Koma kumwetulira kwa mwamuna wanga pachithunzi chake chambiri kumawoneka ngati koona komanso kokoma mtima ndipo kudandikokera, kotero ndidamupatsa mwayi ndipo ndine wokondwa kuti ndinatero! Tinangokwatirana kumene mu November. - Megan K., 40, Lexington, Kentucky
4. Lipirani malowo ngati ali ndi anthu omwe mukufuna kukhala nawo pachibwenzi
Ndili pachibwenzi pa intaneti, ndidapitako masiku angapo a Hinge, ngati masiku awiri oyamba pa sabata, omwe sanakhalepo ambiri. Pambuyo pake ndinatsatira malangizo a bwenzi langa lapamtima, yemwe anandiuza kuti ngati ndikufunadi kukumana ndi mnyamata yemwe anali ndi chibwenzi cha nthawi yaitali, ndimayenera kulipira kuti ndikhale pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti - omwe tsopano atha Ife. (Koma zolipira zibwenzi masiku ano zikuphatikizapo Match, eHarmony, JDate, etc.) Ndinagwirizana ndi wokongola kwambiri, 6'4 'munthu amene ankafuna kunditengera mac ndi tchizi ndi vinyo-moyo wanga wokondedwa, obvi. Patha zaka zisanu ndi theka kuchokera tsiku limenelo ndipo sindinalowenso. Tinakwatirana miyezi inayi yapitayo! - Meredith G., 31, New York Mzinda
5. Ikani mapulogalamu pansi pamene muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina
Kuti mupereke tsiku loyamba-kapena tsiku lililonse, kwenikweni-mwayi wophuka ndikukula kukhala chinthu chenicheni komanso chopindulitsa, muyenera kuzimitsa zidziwitso pa mapulogalamu anu a chibwenzi kuti musakhale ndi zododometsa mukakhala ndi wina. Simungathe kupezeka pa tsiku ndi munthu mmodzi pamene mukupeza uthenga watsopano kuchokera kwa wina. —Amanda B., 37, Dallas
6. Pitani kwa munthu wabwinobwino wa chithunzi yemwe akufanana ndi moyo wake
Ndikofunikira kuyesa kudziwa kuti munthu ndi ndani m'malo mongoyang'ana munthu chifukwa chithunzi chake chimawoneka bwino pachikuto cha Mtengo wa GQ . Zithunzi za mwamuna wanga tsopano zinali zachilendo ndipo sizinachuluke monga momwe ena ambiri amachitira. M'malo mojambula zithunzi, anali ndi zithunzi zokhazikika za iye ndi agalu ake (zowonekera chizindikiro cha kukhulupirika ) ndi selfie yoyambira yakukhitchini. Bio yake inali yachibadwa nayenso; samagwira ntchito mopenga kapena amapita kokayenda kumapeto kwa sabata iliyonse. Amadya pizza komanso kumwa kachasu. Ndinagulitsidwa! -Lauren N., 31, Long Beach, California
7. Osapewa kusiyana kwa chikhalidwe
Pambuyo pa zaka zinayi za chibwenzi, zaka zitatu kapena ukwati ndipo tsopano ndili ndi mwana panjira, ndinganene kuti ndine wokondwa kuti ndinatenga mwayi ndi chibwenzi pa intaneti komanso ndi munthu wosiyana kwambiri ndi ine. Ndinalowamo ndi mtima womasuka ndi kuvomereza kusiyana kumeneku, komwe sikunali kochepa poganizira banja langa ndi ine timachokera ku Rizal, chigawo cha kunja kwa Manila ku Philippines, ndipo Mike amachokera ku banja lalikulu la Italy ku New. Jersey. Koma kukhala omasuka ku zomwe zinatipangitsa kukhala osiyana ndi kuphunzitsana za miyambo ndi miyambo yathu kunatipangitsa kukhala oyandikana kwambiri kuposa momwe ndimayembekezera. -Dia M., 36, Somerset, New Jersey
8. Lembani mndandanda wazinthu zonse zomwe mukuyang'ana muubwenzi
Muyenera kudziwa yankho la funso lakuti ‘Kodi mukuyang’ana chiyani?’ Sindinakhale yemwe woti ndikufunseni ndipo kwenikweni nthawi zonse ndimaganiza kuti ndi funso lopusa, koma mwamuna wanga atandifunsa kuti pa Bumble titatha kuyankhulana kwakanthawi pang'ono, adawoneka ngati munthu wowona mtima komanso wolunjika. (ali!), ndiye ndinamuuza zoona kuti ndikuyang'ana munthu wotsimikiza zamtsogolo. Zinapezeka kuti ndilo yankho lomwe ankafuna! Chifukwa chake musaope kukhala wowona mtima ndikuchotsa anyamata omwe sali otsimikiza-ngati ndi zomwe mukufuna. Tinapanga chinkhoswe patatha miyezi isanu ndi inayi kenaka tinakwatirana patatha miyezi isanu ndi inayi ndipo takhala m’banja kwa zaka zopitirira pang’ono. -Alex P., 29, Manchester, New Hampshire
9. Onetsetsani kuti mfundo zanu zazikulu zikuwonekeratu
Ndinali wozengereza pang'ono kuyesa chibwenzi pogwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu ndipo sindinalumphire pamasewera mpaka pambuyo pake pamasewera chifukwa chikhulupiriro changa ndi chofunikira kwambiri kwa ine ndipo sindimadziwa momwe ndikanati ndisefe amuna omwe sanatero. kugawana mtengo wapakati. Ndinakumana ndi Franz patatha milungu iwiri ndili pa Bumble, ndipo tinaganiza zokumana ma tacos titangolankhula pa pulogalamu kwa maola angapo chifukwa tonse tinali patsogolo kwambiri za chikhulupiriro chathu kukhala gawo lalikulu la moyo wathu. Malangizo ine ndingawapatse anzanga daters Intaneti ndi kuonetsetsa inu momveka bwino ndi moona mtima za breakers wanu lalikulu, ndi konse nsembe pachimake makhalidwe anu ndi zikhulupiriro kwa aliyense. Ine ndi Franz tinakhala pachibwenzi kwa zaka pafupifupi zitatu pambuyo pake, kenaka tinakwatirana mwezi wathawu! Tsopano tikukhala limodzi ndi amphaka athu, Tuna ndi Wasabi. -Alexandra V., 28, Sacramento, California
10. Sungani zokambirana zosangalatsa zamasiku enieni
Kupambana kwanga kwakukulu ndi masiku enieni omwe ndidakumana nawo pamapulogalamu kunabwera ndikusuntha zinthu kuchokera pafoni yanga kupita kumoyo weniweni posachedwa. Sinthanani mauthenga angapo kuti muwonetsetse kuti mukumva otetezeka komanso mukufuna, koma bwerani ndi dongosolo loti mudziwane mwachangu. Nthawi zingapo ndidakhala milungu ingapo ndikutumizirana mameseji kapena kutumizirana mameseji ndi munthu yemwe sindinakumanepo naye, ndipo pofika nthawi yomwe tidakumana, zinkakhala ngati tachita mafunso onse oti ndikudziweni pa intaneti, ndipo zidagwa pansi. . Chinachake chomwe chidandikopa kwa bwenzi langa chinali chakuti, pambuyo pa mauthenga angapo, adandifunsa nthawi yomweyo ndi malo enieni komanso nthawi. Kutsimikiza mtima kwake ndi zolinga zake zomveka zinali zotsitsimula. Anthu amatha kukhala amtundu umodzi pamapulogalamu. Kupatsa wina phindu lakuwona chithunzi chonse mwa munthu ndi njira yabwino yodzikhazikitsira kuti mupambane. —Megan G., wazaka 27, New York City
11. Pumulani
Moona mtima, ine ndikuganiza chinthu choyamba ndi kupitiriza kuyesera koma musaope kutenga yopuma pa Intaneti chibwenzi pamene inu muyenera izo. Ndinkaona ngati ndikuyang'ana pansi pa thanthwe lililonse kuti ndipeze mwamuna wanga ndipo zinali zotopetsa, choncho ndimayenera kuchokapo kwa sabata imodzi kapena kuposerapo nthawi ndi nthawi. Kubwerezabwereza kwa madeti onse oyamba omwe nthawi zina anali odabwitsa, osamasuka kapena owongoka adandisiya ndikumva kukhumudwa. Ndinasiya masiku angapo oipa! Koma sindinasiye tsiku limene ndinapita ndi mnzanga wam’tsogolo — takhala m’banja chaka tsopano — chifukwa ndinadzipatulira nthawi yosonkhanitsa pambuyo zoipa kuti ndiyamikire zabwino. —Jess A., 43, Baltimore
12. Lankhulani ndi anzanu za chibwenzi chanu pulogalamu yapamwamba ndi yotsika
Langizo langa kwa aliyense amene akuyenda, kusambira kapena kumira mu dziwe la zibwenzi pa intaneti ndikuti ndi nyanja yamchere kuposa dziwe. Zovomerezeka aliyense akuchita, ndipo tonse tiyenera kuyankhula za izo. Lankhulani ndi anzanu! Gawani zokhumudwitsa zanu, nkhawa zanu, chimwemwe chanu, zotsika ndi zokwera, makamaka pamene mukumva ngati chimphona chakufa chifukwa ndi chovuta kupitiriza kuchita pamene chikulefula. Kukambitsirana za izo n’kwabwino—m’maganizo ndi m’maganizo. Mwina wina amene mukumudziwa akukumana ndi zomwezo kapena ali ndi nkhani ya tsiku loyipa la 'I can top that' yomwe ingakusekeni. Mfundo ndi yakuti pali kusalidwa kozungulira pa chibwenzi pa intaneti komwe sikuyenera kukhalapo chifukwa iyi si nkhani yatsopano. —Kailah B., 32, Albany, New York
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