Kodi mukumudziwa bwenzi, wachibale kapena mnzako wamba yemwe amaganiza kuti dziko likutsutsana nawo? Mukudziwa, munthu amene adzapeza mwayi uliwonse wodandaula kuti zinthu siziwayendera bwanji? Inde, anthu omwe nthawi zonse - zivute zitani - amasewera ozunzidwa. Anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro ozunzidwa nthawi zambiri amakana kutenga udindo pazovuta zomwe zimachitika m'miyoyo yawo ndipo amayembekezera okondedwa awo kuti alowemo nthawi iliyonse pamene chinachake chilakwika. Nkhani yake ndiyakuti, tonsefe tili ndi mavuto athu, ndiye munthu akakulemetsa ndi zovuta zake, zimatha kumva kutopa kwambiri.
Malinga ndi wolemba Dr. Judith Orloff, anthu amene amavutika nthaŵi zonse amakhala ma vampire amphamvu. Ngati mwaphonya, vampire yamphamvu ndi mawu a anthu omwe amamwa mphamvu zanu zonse (mukudziwa, ngati ma vampires). Amakonda kukhala odabwitsa, osowa komanso osamalira kwambiri. Ngati mukukayikira (dziwa) kuti munthu wina m'moyo wanu ndi mtundu wokonda kusewera wozunzidwayo, werengani malangizo atatu othana nawo, kusamalira buku losangalatsa la Orfloff, The Empath's Survival Guide .
1. Ikani malire achifundo ndi omveka bwino
Sikuti simukufuna kuti anthu omwe ali pafupi nanu asangalale, sikuti ntchito yanu kukhala wothandizira wawo. Ngati wina m'moyo wanu amasewera wozunzidwayo, yesetsani kuwafotokozera momveka bwino kuti pamene muli kumbali yawo, simungakhalepo nthawi zonse (kachiwiri, muli ndi moyo wanu). Orloff akuperekanso lingaliro lokhazikitsa malire akuthupi kusonyeza kuti simuli pamalo oti muwamvere akulankhula kwa ola limodzi pazachinthu chomwe simungathe kuchichita kapena kuchitapo kanthu. Iyi ndi nthawi yabwino kudumpha manja anu ndikusiya kuyang'ana maso. tumizani uthenga kuti muli otanganidwa.
2. Gwiritsani ntchito kuyimba foni kwa mphindi zitatu
Chabwino, ndiye izi ndi zanzeru kwambiri. Kuyimba Kwafoni kwa Mphindi Zitatu kwa Orloff kumapita motere: Mvetserani mwachidule, kenaka muuzeni mnzanu kapena wachibale wanu kuti, ‘Ndimakuthandizani, koma ndimatha kumvetsera kwa mphindi zochepa ngati mukupitiriza kubwereza nkhani zomwezo. Mwinamwake mungapindule mwa kupeza sing’anga wokuthandizani.’ M’poyenera kuyesera, ayi?
3. Nenani ‘ayi’ ndikumwetulira
Iyi ndi njira yabwino yotsekera madandaulo a wozunzidwayo asanathe kupita. Tiyerekeze kuti mnzako watsala pang'ono kuyambitsa zokambirana za mphindi 45 za momwe amapitirizira kukwezedwa komwe amamuyenera. M’malo monena kuti, Ayi. Sindingathe kuyankhula pakali pano, kapena kumvetsera chifukwa chokhala aulemu, Orloff amalimbikitsa kunena chinachake chonga, ndidzakhala ndi malingaliro abwino kuti ndipeze zotsatira zabwino. Zikomo pomvetsetsa kuti ndatsala pang'ono kutha ndipo ndiyenera kubwereranso ku polojekiti yanga. Ndi abwenzi ndi achibale, akupereka malingaliro omvera chisoni mwachidule pa vuto lawo, koma kenaka akane ndikumwetulira mwa kusintha nkhaniyo osati kulimbikitsa madandaulo awo.
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