Mumamukonda kwambiri mnzanuyo, koma nthawi zina mumafuna kumuponya pamtunda. Komabe, mukufuna kudziwa: Kodi chinsinsi cha kupambana kwanthawi yayitali ndi chiyani? Chabwino, mdierekezi ali mwatsatanetsatane, ndithudi. Malinga ndi ofufuza, okwatirana achimwemwe amakonda kukhala ndi makhalidwe asanu ameneŵa.
1. Amaika Makhalidwe Abwino Patsogolo
Kodi mwakhala limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji? Inde n’zosavuta kuiwala kunena chonde ndikuthokoza pamene mupempha mnzanuyo kuti apereke mcherewo kapena agwire chitseko. Koma okwatirana amene ali paubwenzi wolimba amati kuyesayesa pamodzi kusonyeza kuyamikira nthaŵi zonse ndi chinthu chimene chimapangitsa kusiyana kwakukulu pankhani ya mgwirizano wachimwemwe (ndi wa nthaŵi yaitali). Ndipotu, kafukufuku wofalitsidwa m'magazini Ubale Waumwini anapeza kuti kusonyeza chiyamikiro n’kofunika kwambiri ku ukwati wabwino ndi wachipambano ndi kuti kungonena zikomo kwa mnzanuyo kungakhale kwamphamvu kwambiri moti n’kukhoza kuthana ndi kuwonongeka kwa ngakhale kumenyana koopsa. (Sikuti mumakangana kangati, koma momwe mumachitirana wina ndi mzake pamene mukukangana ndizofunika, olemba kafukufuku akufotokoza.)
2. Sagawana zambiri pa intaneti
Tonse tatero izo abwenzi omwe amathamangira pa intaneti pazochitika ziwiri zilizonse. Chaka choyamba? Chokoma. Tsiku loyamba lokumbukira nthawi yomwe mudagawana nawo ma cones a ayisikilimu limodzi? Hmm, wokayikira pang'ono. Malinga ndi ofufuza ku Haverford College , munthu akakhala wosatetezeka akumva za ubale wawo, amakhala ndi mwayi wolemba pazama TV kuti atsimikizire. M’malo mwake, okwatirana achimwemwe amakhala osangalala kwambiri kukumbukira zochitika zapadera mwamseri.
3. Amasangalala Kuyesa Zatsopano
Malo odyera omwe aliyense amadziwa dzina lanu ndi gawo lolandirika pachibwenzi chanu, koma maanja omwe nthawi zonse amayesetsa kusakaniza zinthu amakhala osangalala muubwenzi, malinga ndi maphunziro angapo kuphatikiza limodzi lofalitsidwa ndi Rutgers University . Chifukwa chake? Zachilendo zimagwira ntchito-kuchita zinthu zatsopano limodzi ngati banja kumathandiza kubweretsa agulugufe ndikuyambitsa kuphulika kwamankhwala komwe kunkachitika muubongo wanu komwe kudayamba kale. Komanso, kugwedeza zinthu sikovuta monga momwe kumamvekera. Simukuyenera kusuntha kuchokera ku chandeliers. Ingopitani ku gawo latsopano la tawuni, yendetsani galimoto kudziko kapena kupitilira apo, musapange mapulani ndikuwona zomwe zikukuchitikirani, Dr. Helen E. Fisher waku Rutgers adauza Dr. The New York Times .
4. Sasamala Pang'ono PDA
Ayi, sitikulankhula za kugonana usiku uliwonse, koma okwatirana osangalala ndi omwe ali A-OK ndi machitidwe ang'onoang'ono achikondi. Phunziro mu Journal of Personal and Social Relationships amanena kuti kungoyambitsa kukhudzana—kugwirana chanza, kukumbatirana pa kama, kukumbatirana—kukhoza kusonyeza kwa mnzanuyo kuti pali chikhumbo chofuna kukhala pafupi.
5. Sasiya Mbale M'Sinki
Maanja ambiri amawona izi ngati peeve yawo yoyamba, koma maanja omwe amakhala limodzi amachitira limodzi ntchito yodyera limodzi, malinga ndi Pew Research poll . Zonse zimachokera ku kuyesetsa kwapamodzi kugwira ntchito zapakhomo (zomwe zimagwiranso ntchito monga kuvomereza momwe zingatengere nthawi). Ndiye, mbale ya phala ija yomwe mwasiya sink-mbali yomwe ingatenge masekondi awiri kuti isambe? Ingochitani. Banja losangalala kwambiri ndilo mphoto yanu.
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