Ndikukwatiwa m'miyezi ingapo, ndipo ine kapena bwenzi langa sitili achipembedzo kapena tili ndi kugwirizana kwambiri ndi zolowa zathu (sitili osangalatsa kwambiri papepala). Tapitako ku maukwati a bajillion, komabe, ndipo takhala timakonda nthawi zonse pamene tadzazidwa ndi miyambo ndi machitidwe a anthu ena-ndipo timakonda kwambiri horah. Ndizosangalatsa, zodzaza mphamvu komanso chithunzithunzi cha kuvina kwachikondwerero. Ngakhale kuti sizikuwoneka ngati zachipembedzo, sitifuna kukhumudwitsa aliyense. Ndiye chonde ndiuzeni: Kodi ndingathe kuchita horah paukwati wanga ngati sindine Myuda?
Kuchokera ku Reform kupita ku Orthodox, maukwati ambiri achiyuda ali ndi zinthu zitatu zofanana: chuppah (denga lomwe okwatirana amaima pamwambo), galasi losweka (mazel tov!) ndi horah.
Miyambo yonseyi ili ndi matanthauzo akeake (kapena angapo) omwe amadutsa mibadwomibadwo, koma chinthu chimodzi chakhala chowona - chimapanga mphindi . Iwo sali opindulitsa pa nkhani ya chipembedzo, komanso ndi maloto okonzekera phwando amakwaniritsidwa. Chuppah imapereka mwayi wokongoletsa guwa ndikupanga #mood; galasi losweka limasonyeza chiyambi cha chikondwerero; ndipo horah ndi kugunda kwamphamvu, kogodomalitsa komwe kumapangitsa aliyense kuyenda pabwalo lovina. M’pake kuti anthu azikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana amazikonda.
Tisanayankhe funso lanu, choyamba tiyenera kufunsa: Nanga bwanji? ndi kuti? Tikudziwa kuti ndi kuvina kopangidwa mozungulira, koma ngati Google horah, mumaphunzira kuti idayamba ngati kuvina kwachikhalidwe ku Balkan ndipo sikuti kuvina kwachiyuda. Horah yomwe mumayiwona pamaukwati ambiri achiyuda aku America nthawi zambiri imasinthidwa kukhala nyimbo yachi Israeli ya Hava Nagilia, ndipo imachokera ku miyambo ya anthu a ku Israeli ndi Eastern Europe. Kodi phunziro lathu laling'ono la mbiriyakale likutiphunzitsa chiyani? Panali kubwera kwa zikhalidwe kale nthawi komanso mwina mbali zonse ziwiri.
Koma chifukwa chakuti nkhani yoyambira ya horah ingakhale yofalitsa mungu, kodi zikutanthauza kuti ndi bwino kuti osakhala Ayuda atengere zomwe zakhala mwambo wamakono wachiyuda? Funsani anzanu onse achiyuda ndipo mupeza mayankho osakanikirana. Mudzawamva ena akukana ndipo ena akuti Inde! Ndipo milingo ya zaka ndi chizindikiritso chachipembedzo mwachiwonekere zidzachita mbali m’kawonedwe kawo. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna wachiyuda wa Orthodox wazaka zake za m'ma 60 mwina sangakhale pansi pakuyesera kwanu zachikhalidwe. Koma monga mkazi wachiyuda wosapembedza kwambiri wazaka za m’ma 30, ndikuganiza kuti malinga ngati muli aulemu ndi kumvetsa mwambo, bwanji osatero? Koma sindikanatha kukhala ndekha pa nkhaniyi, choncho ndinapempha Ayuda anzanga kuti anene.
Mnzanga wina wachiyuda anandiuza kuti adzakhala bwino bola ngati panali Myuda 'A' paukwatiwo. Anali wotsimikiza kuti okwatiranawo amawatcha kuti horah osati kuti 'mavinidwe ozungulira achiyuda,' yomwe inali mfundo yovomerezeka kwambiri. Anabweretsanso kuopsa kochita horah paukwati womwe si Ayuda, kuchenjeza, Khalani bwino podziwa kuti sikhala ndi mphamvu zambiri kuposa zomwe mudachita ndi azakhali achiyuda, amalume ndi azibale awo. Komanso, mfundo zomveka.
Zitsanzo zathu zazing'ono zikuwonetsa kuti akazi achiyuda omwe si achipembedzo azaka za m'ma 30 ali bwino ndi inu kuchita horah. Koma kodi olamulira pa zotentha zonse anena chiyani? Agogo aakazi achiyuda adayankha: Zili ngati kukhala Myuda komanso kukhala ndi mtengo wa Khrisimasi chifukwa mumakonda zokongoletsa. Ndine wazochitika zamitundu yosiyanasiyana koma yang'anani zomwe zachitika ku bagel. Mabulosi abulu? Ndikadati, khalani munjira yanu. Siyani horah kwa Ayuda, akutero Linda, gogo wachiyuda wa ku D.C.
Kwa snobs za bagel, izi zimadzutsa mfundo yabwino-buluu labuluu ndi chilema pamaso pa zinthu zophika zophika zachiyuda. Nthawi yomweyo, kumene agogo aakazi achiyuda amayenera kukhala ndi zotentha kwambiri. Ndi mgwirizano wogawanika, ndinayenera kupita pamwamba ... inde, ndinafunsa rabi.
Izi ndi zomwe Rabi Judy Greenfeld, mtsogoleri wa Mpingo Nachshon Minyan ku Encino, CA, anandiuza kuti: ‘Ndithu iwo akhoza kuchita horah. Ndi kuvina kwachisangalalo ndi chisangalalo. Ndi chiyamikiro chachikulu kuti anthu amene si achipembedzo chachiyuda atsatira miyambo yathu ndipo amafuna kuwatengera kuti awonjezere chimwemwe chawo!'
Chifukwa chake, ngati mukumva kukhala omasuka kuyambitsa mwambo watsopano kwa achibale anu ndi anzanu mwaulemu, ndiye mwa njira zonse…mazel tov!
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