Kodi mwana wanu ndi wokonda kucheza kunyumba koma amangokhalira kucheza? Kapena mwina nthawi zonse amakhala wamantha (ndipo amamangiriridwa ku mbali yanu)? Malinga ndi Bernardo J. Carducci, Ph.D., pulofesa wa zamaganizo ndiponso mtsogoleri wa Shyness Research Institute pa yunivesite ya Indiana University Southeast, kuchita manyazi paubwana n’kofala kwambiri. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti pali zinthu zambiri zomwe makolo angachite kuti alimbikitse ana kuti achoke m'chigoba chawo. Nawa malangizo asanu ndi awiri amomwe mungathandizire mwana wamanyazi kukhala ndi chidaliro.
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Zithunzi za Koldunov/Getty1. Osalowererapo
Ngati muwona mwana wanu akuvutika kuti apeze mabwenzi pabwalo lamasewera, zimakupangitsani kuti mulowemo ndikumukokera mofatsa ku gulu lomwe likuzungulira. Koma Dr. Carducci akuchenjeza kuti ngati mutenga nawo mbali, mwana wanu sadzaphunzira kulolera kukhumudwa (ie, momwe angachitire ndi vuto linalake limene angapezeke) - luso lamtengo wapatali limene adzafunikira kupitirira sukulu.2. Koma khalani pafupi (nthawi yochepa).
Tiyerekeze kuti mukutsitsa mwana wanu paphwando lobadwa. Onetsetsani kuti mukhalebe kumeneko mpaka atamva bwino, akulangiza Dr. Carducci. Lingaliro ndiloti amupatse mwayi wotenthetsa phokoso ndi malo atsopano. Khalani mozungulira mpaka atakhala womasuka ndi gulu koma kenako nkuchokapo. Osakhala nthawi yonseyi-mudziwitse kuti mubweranso ndipo zikhala bwino.
Zithunzi za Wavebreakmedia/Getty3. Akonzekeretseni ku zochitika zatsopano
Tangoganizirani phwando lobadwa lomweli. Kupita kunyumba ya munthu kwa nthawi yoyamba kungakhale kodetsa nkhawa. Thandizani mwana wanu pokambirana naye zomwe zikuchitika kale. Yesani monga: Tikupita kuphwando la kubadwa kwa Sally sabata yamawa. Kumbukirani kuti mudapitako kumaphwando akubadwa m'mbuyomu, monga kunyumba ya Amalume a John. Pamapwando akubadwa, timasewera komanso timadya keke. Tidzachitanso chimodzimodzi, kunyumba kwa Sally.4. Atsogolereni ndi chitsanzo
Musamafunse mwana wanu kuti achite chilichonse chomwe simungafune kuchita nokha, akutero Dr. Carducci. Khalani okondana ndi ochezeka ndi anthu omwe mumakumana nawo (ana amaphunzira mwa kutengera khalidwe), koma ngati simungamve bwino kupita ku gulu la alendo, ndiye kuti simungathe kuyembekezera kuti mwana wanu achite zomwezo (ngakhale alendowo ndi anzake atsopano).
5. Osakankhira zinthu mwachangu
Phunzitsani mwana wanu zinthu zatsopano pogwiritsa ntchito njira yosinthira, njira yomwe mumasinthira chinthu chimodzi kapena ziwiri nthawi imodzi. Mwachitsanzo, yambani kuitanira mwana wocheperako uja (ndi mayi bwenzi!) kunyumba kwanu kudzasewera pabwalo lanu. Akangosewera pamodzi momasuka komanso mosangalala, sinthani chilengedwe pobweretsa ana onse ku paki. Zinthu zikayamba kukhala bwino, mukhoza kuitana mnzanu wina kuti alowe nawo. Pitani pang'onopang'ono kuti mupatse mwana wanu nthawi yoti azolowere ndikuchitapo kanthu.
Zithunzi za FatCamera / Getty6. Lankhulani za nthawi yomwe munada nkhawa
Ngakhale ana opanda manyazi amatha kusonyeza 'manyazi,' akutero Dr. Carducci, makamaka panthawi ya kusintha monga kusuntha kapena kuyamba sukulu. Muuzeni mwana wanu kuti aliyense amamva mantha nthawi ndi nthawi. Ndipo makamaka, lankhulani za nthawi yomwe mudakhala ndi nkhawa (monga kuyankhula pagulu) ndi momwe munachitira (munapereka ulaliki kuntchito ndipo munamva bwino pambuyo pake).7. Osaukakamiza
Mukudziwa? Mwana wanu sangakhale munthu wochezeka kwambiri padziko lapansi. Ndipo nzabwino. Ingotsimikizirani kuti iye akudziwa zimenezo, nayenso.
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