Mkwatibwi wanga wakhala ndi gulu limodzi la anzanga kuyambira ali wamng’ono, ndipo onse ali ndi chikhalidwe chofanana. Ndibwino kuti ali ndi wina ndi mzake kuti azithandizana, koma posachedwapa wakhala akukhala nawo mochedwa kwambiri. Amatuluka Lamlungu madzulo, nthaŵi zambiri amabwera kunyumba 3 kapena 4 koloko koloko ndandanda yake ya ntchito imakhala yosinthasintha, koma yanga yaikidwa mopanda kanthu, ndipo usiku wake wochedwa umatanthauza kuti sitingayende limodzi m’maŵa, chimene chiri chofunika kwa ine. Akakhala ndi anzake, ndimaona zochepa za iye, ndipo pamapeto pake ndimadana ndi anyamatawa chifukwa cha zimenezi. Ndingatani? Ndikumva ngati akusankha kuona abwenzi ake kuposa ine, zomwe zikuwoneka ngati kukana kwakukulu.
Anthu ali otanganidwa masiku ano, ndipo ndikumvetsetsa kuti akuluakulu awiri ogwira ntchito atha kukhala ndi masabata pomwe pali nthawi yochepa yolumikizana. Koma ngati nthawi zonse mumaphonya maubwenzi apamtima, ndiye chifukwa chodetsa nkhawa.
Ndi ndewu iliyonse yomwe imachitika mobwerezabwereza, nkhaniyi iyenera kuyankhidwa mwanjira yatsopano. Lingaliro langa ndikuti, popeza ndi ndewu ya sabata iliyonse, phirili limaphulika pomwe lili latsopano. Ndipo ngakhale ndikumvetsetsa nzeru yachibadwa yothamangira nthawi yomwe akudutsa pakhomo, mwina si nthawi yabwino yokambirana izi. Dikirani mpaka malingaliro anu atakhazikika kotero kuti mubwere ndi mzimu wosatetezeka osati wotsutsana.
Palinso nkhani ziwiri zosiyana pamasewera apa. Choyamba, simukupeza nthawi yokwanira kuti mukhale naye pafupi komanso kuti mugwirizane. Chachiwiri, mukufunsa ngati ali wodzipereka ndipo akufuna kukhala nanu, komanso ngati mukukonzekera banja labwino.
Nkhani yoyamba ndi canary mumgodi wa malasha. Nanga n’cifukwa ciani amaona kuti nanunso afunika kukuonani? Muyenera kudziwa ngati ndi chenjezo labodza kapena ngati akusowa kudzipereka muyenera kumva otetezeka mu ubalewu. Koma tiyeni tiganizire zabwino kwambiri kuyambira poyambira: kuti amangofunika kuyankhulana kolimba za momwe mumamvera.
Fotokozani tanthauzo la nthawi yabwino kwa inu
Muyenera kugawana bwenzi lanu ndi anthu ena, ndithudi. Koma ngati ndinu mtundu wa mkazi yemwe amasamala kuti mnzanuyo amamuika patsogolo, ndiye kuti muyeneranso kumufotokozera izi movutikira, panthawi yokambirana yopanda kutentha.
Makamaka ngati ndinu khalidwe nthawi chikondi chinenero munthu, ndiye muyenera kumuuza izi ndimomwe mumamverera kukondedwa: Ndimakhala wotetezeka mu ubale wathu tikakhala limodzi nthawi zonse. Tikapanda kutero, ndimakayikira ngati mumandikonda kapena ayi. Kodi tingathe kudzipereka ku nthawi inayake mlungu uliwonse yomwe ndi yathu? Atha kukhala ndi chilankhulo chosiyana chachikondi ndipo samamvetsetsa kufunikira kwanu kosasinthika.
Gawani zomwe mudagawana nane-zoti mukufunikiradi ulendo wam'mawa kuti mulumikizanenso bwino, komanso kuti kukhala pandandanda womwewo kumakupatsani mwayi kuti mukhale nawo limodzi. Ndithudi musamuuze kuti asawawone abwenzi ake. Ndiponsotu, kudana nawo ndiko kupsa mtima kosayenera—izi ndi za nonse awiri.
Bwerani pa izo ndi mtima wotseguka. Ngati zinthu sizisintha , ndiye muyenera kutenga sitepe yaikulu.
Muuzeni mlandu wa zochita zake
Ngati zinthu sizisintha, muyenera kuuza bwenzi lanu kuti simukumva kudzipereka kwake ndipo zikukupangitsani kukayikira chikondi chake. Inde, zingakhale zochititsa mantha, koma ayenera kudziwa kuti izi zikukukhudzani kwambiri.
Apanso, si abwenzi-ndi kusaganizira zosowa zanu, zomwe ndizofunikira m'banja lililonse.
Pamapeto pake, simungapitirize kupereka chikondi pamene chitsime chauma, ndipo ayenera kudziwa kuti mukukumba madzi otsiriza. Ngati sangamvetse zimenezo, ndiye kuti mwina sali wokonzeka kuopsa kwa ubale wanu.
Jenna Birch ndi mtolankhani komanso wolemba Kusiyana kwa Chikondi: Dongosolo Lachikulu Lopambana M'moyo ndi Chikondi , chiwongolero chokhazikitsa ubale kwa amayi amakono, komanso mphunzitsi wachibwenzi (kulandira makasitomala atsopano a 2020). Kuti mumufunse funso, lomwe angayankhe mugawo lomwe likubwera laPampereDpeopleny, tumizani imelo ku. jen.birch@sbcglobal.net .
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