Thandizeni! Mwana wanga wamng'ono amangogwira mabere anga, zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri tikakhala pagulu. Chifukwa chiyani akuchita izi (ndipo ndimupangitsa bwanji kuti asiye)?
Popanda kudziwa zambiri za vuto lanu, n'zovuta kunena chifukwa chake mwana wanu wamng'ono akuchita izi, koma dziwani kuti ndizofala kwambiri (ndipo palibe chochititsa mantha).
Ana amene asiya kuyamwitsa posachedwapa nthawi zambiri amagwira mabere mwachizoloŵezi. Amachitanso zimenezi pamene aphunzira kugwirizanitsa mawere a amayi ndi kudzitonthoza okha. Ndipo kufotokozera kwina kotheka ndikuti mwana wanu wamng'ono amangofuna kudziwa kapena angakonde momwe mabere anu amamvera!
Ziribe chifukwa chake, muli pamalo pomwe mukufuna kuti khalidwelo liyime. Ndiye mumachita bwanji zimenezo? Ikani malire omveka bwino. Uzani mwana wanu kuti anagwirapo kale mabere a amayi ndipo akudziwa mmene akumverera, ndipo tsopano pamene akukula palibenso kukhudza ziwalo zobisika—pagulu kapena mwamseri. Mutha kuchita izi mukukweza dzanja lake pang'onopang'ono kutali ndi bere lanu. Akhoza kutsutsa koma kukhalabe wolimba (mwachifundo, ndithudi).
Njira ina ndikupatsa mwana wanu chinthu chosinthira. Kwa ena, ichi ndi chala chachikulu, koma chikhoza kukhala bulangeti chofewa chofewa, pilo, kapena nyama yokumbatira. Chinthuchi chingathandize mwana wanu kutonthoza pamene akugona, ali ndi nkhawa kapena akukhumudwa. Ngati sakukondwera ndi chilichonse mwa zinthu zimenezi, onani ngati mungamusangalatse ndi T-shirts zanu zakale zofewa zoyera (zosachapidwa kuti zimveke ngati amayi).
Mfundo yofunika kwambiri: Khalidwe limeneli silikhalitsa, koma mukhoza kulithetsa mwa kulankhulana momasuka ndi mwana wanu ndi kupanga malire oyenera.
Dr. Fran Walfish ndi wa ku California wozikidwa pa banja komanso ubale wama psychotherapist komanso wolemba Kholo Lodzizindikira.
Zogwirizana: Kodi Ndi Zoipa Kukhala ndi Mwana Wokondedwa? Chifukwa Ine Ndichitadi
