Ndimangomva ngati ndi chaka chomwe ndikadakumana ndi munthu wina, Morgan wazaka 31 adaulula zakukhosi pa Zoom ndi anzanga amwazikana mdziko lonselo. Ndiye ali mliri wanu chibwenzi zinachitikira kwenikweni wakhala ngati? Mnzake wina anafunsa. Chondidabwitsa ndichakuti, moyo wa chibwenzi cha Morgan, ngakhale udasokonezedwa ndi COVID-19, sunatayike. M'malo mwake, zomwe adafotokoza - kutumizirana mameseji kwanthawi yayitali, kulendewera komanso nthawi zina (zosowa kwambiri) zokumana ndi khofi wakunja - zidamveka ngati, ndinganene, wathanzi kutsutsana ndi misonkhano yoyamba ya pre-coronavirus IRL yomwe idayambitsidwa ndi kupuma kovutirapo. (tsoka), zisankho zamatsenga ndi/kapena zowotcha mwachangu kutengera chidziwitso chochepa kwambiri. Ndipo pali dzina la izi: Lipoti la chibwenzi la Bumble la 2021 amachitcha kuti chibwenzi chochedwa. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale osakwatiwa ngati bwenzi langa atha kukhala ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha mwayi wachikondi womwe watayika chifukwa cha mliriwu, akatswiri akuwona kukhazikika kwasiliva pang'onopang'ono. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake.
Kodi ‘chibwenzi chochedwa’ n’chiyani?
Per Bumble, pang'onopang'ono chibwenzi ndi mchitidwe wa anthu kutenga nthawi kudziwana wina ndi mzake ndi kumanga kugwirizana asanaganize ngati akufuna kuchita ubwenzi kapena kukumana pamasom'pamaso. Ndipo sizodabwitsa kwambiri, chodabwitsachi chidachokera kuchitetezo chachitetezo chifukwa cha COVID-19, zomwe zapangitsa kuti pakhale kudziwana mozama, komanso malire a wina ndi mnzake, kuwonetsetsa kuti machesi ndiwofunika kukhala ndi thanzi labwino. chiopsezo chokumana.
Chotsatira? Makumi asanu ndi asanu mwa anthu 100 aliwonse omwe ali pa Bumble akutenga nthawi yayitali kuti asunthire machesi pa intaneti. Jemma Ahmed, wamkulu wa zowunikira ku Bumble, akukhulupirira kuti izi zikugwirizana ndi kukhala ndi nthawi ndi zochitika - mliri udzasintha malingaliro anu - kuganiza mozama pazomwe akufuna pachibwenzi. Anthu ayamba kudzidziwa bwino kwambiri, akutero Ahmed. Ndipo chifukwa chake, akutenga nthawi kuti adziwe yemwe ali komanso wosayenera kwa iwo.
Nanga n’cifukwa ciani zimenezi zingakhale zabwino?
Kuwonjezera pa kukhala ndi nthawi yopenda zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa moyo wanu, Jordan Green , dokotala wovomerezeka yemwe amagwira ntchito ndi anthu komanso maanja (tsatirani @the.love.therapist kwa zambiri za inspo ndi malangizo a maphunziro), wawona kuti kwa ena, kukhala pachibwenzi kwawalola kukhala ndi nthawi yodziwana bwino ndi munthu winayo asanadumphire mozama kwambiri. Anthu akuwononga nthawi yochuluka kuti adziwane komanso amathera nthawi yambiri mu siteji ya 'courtship' asanagone. N’chifukwa chiyani zimenezi zili bwino? Chabwino, malinga ndi Green, anthu ambiri amapeza mosavuta kumasuka za zomwe amakonda, zofunika kwambiri, mantha, ziyembekezo ndi mmene akumvera pamene ali pachibwenzi pafupifupi mosiyana ndi munthu. Izi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kuchotsa anthu omwe alibe makhalidwe ndi zolinga zofanana. Zimapangitsanso kukhala kosavuta kudziwana ndi munthu mwachangu, Green akufotokoza.
Susan Trombetti, wopanga masewera ndi CEO wa Exclusive Matchmaking onaninso zabwino pakusintha kwa chibwenzi kwa mliri. Anthu ankakonda kusuntha kwambiri pa mapulogalamu a zibwenzi, kuyesa kupeza 'mtundu wawo wangwiro,' umene kulibe, akutero. Pakumasuka kwambiri, liwiro lachikumbumtima, dziwe lodzikwaniritsa lomwe linali losapezekapo tsopano lakula. Ndipo zambiri sizinama: 38 peresenti ya anthu omwe ali pa Bumble amati kutsekeka kumawapangitsa kufuna china chachikulu. Muzochitika za Trombetti zopanga machesi, osakwatiwa sanataye kalikonse. M'malo mwake, [Iwo] apeza gulu lalikulu la zibwenzi la anthu omwe amawona maubwenzi mozama kwambiri, ndipo izi zakhala kusinthanitsa kwabwino pamipata iliyonse yomwe mungamve kuti mwataya. Mukamalumikizana ndi munthu, samangoyang'ana pachibwenzi ndipo mwayi wanu womanga ubale weniweni wakula kwambiri.
Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuuza anzanu onse osakwatiwa omwe akhumudwitsidwa kuti akhazikike mtima pansi (kapena ena onsewa omwe amafax pas )? Ayi. Aliyense adzatero ndipo adakumanapo ndi kusintha kwa zibwenzi (komanso 2020 zonse za nkhaniyi) mosiyana. Kwa anthu omwe alibe chidwi ndi maubwenzi koma amafuna kukumana wamba, nthawi ino ikhoza kukhala osungulumwa kwambiri. Palibe gawo limodzi lokwanira-onse. Koma ngati inu, monga mnzanga Morgan, mukulimbana ndi lingaliro la nthawi yotayika, yesani kubwerera mmbuyo ndikuwona zomwe zasintha pamoyo wanu wa chibwenzi zomwe zili zoyenera kubweretsa mtsogolo kwa inu. Mutha, pang'onopang'ono, koma zedi, muwone komwe izi zingakufikitseni.
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