Bwana wa bwenzi lanu akumupangitsa kuti agwire ntchito kumapeto kwa sabata ino kuti akonzekere zonse zowonetsera kasitomala wamkulu Lolemba. Zedi, izo zimakwiyitsa ndithu. Ndipo pamene mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akudandaula za bwana wake kuti afika pamlandu wake chifukwa cha kuchedwa m'mawa wina, mumakhumudwa kwambiri. Awa ndi ma niggles abwinobwino apantchito. Koma kodi mumatani ngati mukuchita ndi munthu wina kuntchito yemwe sakukwiyitsani pang'ono, ndi wonyenga weniweni?
Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi wolemba Mateusz Grzesiak, Ph.D. (aka Dr. Matt), ndizofala kuposa momwe mungaganizire. Mabungwe amakonda kulemba ganyu narcissists ngati mabwana chifukwa amafuna kukhala ndi munthu wachikoka komanso wodzaza yekha chifukwa aziyang'ana pa zotsatira, akutiuza. (Zindikirani: Dr. Matt akutiuza kuti 80 peresenti ya anthu omwe amamwa mowa mwauchidakwa ndi amuna, pamene t iye Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders imayika chiwerengerocho pa 50 mpaka 75 peresenti.)
M'malo mwake, mukakwera pamwamba, mumatha kukumana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zoipa. Munthu akakwera makwerero, amamupatsa mphamvu zambiri, akutero Dr. Matt. Ndipo chifukwa cha udindo umene ali nawo, akhoza kukhala ndi anthu ambiri omwe amawasirira. Momwemonso munthu wokonda mankhwala osokoneza bongo amatengera mankhwala osokoneza bongo, narcissist amakonda kusirira.
Nazi zizindikiro zisanu zomwe mungakhale mukuchita ndi narcissist kuntchito.
Kodi izi zikumveka ngati zodziwika bwino? Nawa malangizo anayi a momwe mungapirire pamene mukugwira ntchito ndi narcissist.
1. Siyani pakampani. Ayi ndithu. Kwa thanzi lanu lamaganizo, siyani bungwe lanu ndikupita kumalo ena, akulangiza Dr. Matt, ngakhale akuwonetsanso kuti narcissism ikuwonjezeka (kudzudzula kuwonjezeka kwa anthu omwe amadziona kuti ndi ofunika kwambiri m'malo mwa gulu lonse). Mwa kuyankhula kwina, mukhoza kusiya ntchito yanu yamakono ndikupita kukagwira ntchito kwa narcissist wina. Choncho njira ina ndikuphunzira momwe mungayendetsere munthuyu. Zomwe zimatifikitsa ku mfundo yathu yotsatira…
2. Khalani ndi malire. Ngati mukudziwa kuti munthu wina ndi wamatsenga, muyenera kudzipatula mwa kuika malire kuti asakupezeni kapena kukudzudzulani, akutero Dr. Matt. Nachi chitsanzo: Bwana wanu amakonda kubwera pa desiki yanu kwanthawi yayitali za momwe aliri wodabwitsa (kapena momwe wina aliyense alili wopanda luso). Kukonza? Mumamuuza kuti mumayamikira nthawi yake kotero kuti mwakhazikitsa msonkhano naye pamwezi womwe uyenera kukupatsani mwayi wochuluka woti mupitirize ntchito yanu. (Koma ngati bwana wanu achita chinthu chopenga, monga kukunyozani, musazengereze kuti mtsogoleri wanu wa HR alowe nawo.)
3. Yesani masangweji oyankha. Tiyerekeze kuti bwana wanu adatenga ngongole chifukwa cha khama lanu pamsonkhano ndi mutu honchos pamwamba. Mutengereni pambali ndikumupatsa sangweji yoyankha. (Kumbukirani kuti munthu wonyada amadziona kuti ndi wofunika chifukwa chokondedwa ndi anthu ena, choncho simukufuna kuchita zimenezi pamaso pa anthu ena.) Izi ndi zimene zingaonekere: Ndimakonda kwambiri kukugwira ntchito chifukwa ndiwe wodalirika. bwana wamkulu. Koma ngati mulibe nazo vuto, nthawi ina mukadzakambanso za ine pamaso pa CEO, munganenepo kanthu za maola owonjezera omwe ndakhala ndikugwira nawo ntchitoyi? Zikuyenda bwino kwambiri, ndipo ndikumva ngati inu ndi ine takhala tikutsogola zonse izi.
4. Yerekezerani kuti ali ndi zaka zisanu. Dr. Matt atipatsa chidziŵitso chanzeru: Mkati mwa narcissist aliyense muli kamwana kakang’ono kamene kamachita mantha ndi kukanidwa ndi makolo ake. Amapanga chigoba chodzadza ndi iwo okha komwe ali wamphamvuzonse, kuwongolera komanso kudziwa zonse. Koma ndi chigoba chokha. Ndikosavuta kugwera mumsampha woganiza kuti ali ndi kanthu kotsutsa inu, koma chowonadi ndi chakuti ali ndi chotsutsana nawo. Ndiye nthawi inanso bwana wanu wankhanza akakakamira kuyang'anira chilichonse chaching'ono cha ntchito yanu, yesani kumuyerekeza ngati mwana wazaka zisanu. Izo zikhoza kukupatsani inu chifundo. (Kapena, ndikulepheretsani kuponya kiyibodi yanu pakhoma.)
Zogwirizana: Pali Mitundu Itatu Yamabwana Oopsa. (Umu ndi Momwe Mungathanirane Nawo)
