Ubale—ngakhale wabwino—uli ndi zokwera ndi zoipitsitsa. Koma pamene timakonda ena athu ofunika mu ngakhale zolakwa zawo, pali ochepa makhalidwe amene angathe kuchita chiwerengero pa chimwemwe chanu cha nthawi yaitali monga banja. Koma musade nkhawa pakali pano: Ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo mungakopere bokosi lomwe lili m'munsimu, sizikutanthauza mapeto. M'malo mwake, ndikudumphira kukudziwa bwino komwe mgwirizano wanu ungafune R&R pang'ono. Osadandaula, tili ndi njira zothandizira.
1. Akhululuka, Koma Saiwala
Osunga chakukhosi, chenjerani: Chizoloŵezi chosalola kulakwitsa kapena kudula ndemanga zomwe mnzanu wapanga kamodzi zingasonyeze mgwirizano wochepa kuposa wosangalala. Mwina mukukwirira zomwe zidachitika kale motsutsana ndi kutenga udindo ndikupepesa. Kapena mwina simungachitire mwina kuchitira ndemanga yamba yomwe idapangidwa ngati fanizo - ndikubwerezanso pamakangano aliwonse (kapena pambuyo pa ma cocktails angapo), ziribe kanthu kuti zidachitika kalekale bwanji. Chifukwa chiyani ili vuto: Maanja amamenyana. Ndiko kupatsidwa. Koma mmene mumathetsera kusamvana ndi kumene kuli kofunika kwambiri pankhani ya moyo wonse wa chibwenzi chanu.
Kukonza: Yesetsani kukhala omasuka ku zoyesayesa za mnzanuyo kukonza zowonongeka. Kapena ngati ndiwe wolakwiridwa, kumbukirani kuti sikunachedwe kukhala ndi zolakwa zanu ndikuyesetsa kuchita bwino nthawi ina. Kupatula apo, kutseka kumawerengera zambiri. Amalemba mphunzitsi wa ubale Kyle Benson : Kusiyana pakati pa maanja okondwa ndi omwe sali okondwa sikuti maanja osangalala samalakwitsa… Amachita zonse zomwe sizili bwino zomwe maanja amachita, koma nthawi ina amakambirana komwe amachira.
2. Sanenanso ‘Chonde’ ndi ‘Zikomo’
Makhalidwe ndi ofunika. Zambiri. Kungoti mwakhala limodzi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kapena zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kusiya kuthokoza wokondedwa wanu nthawi iliyonse akakupatsirani zonona za khofi kapena kutenthetsa galimoto yanu mphindi khumi musananyamuke. M’chenicheni, kusiya kuyamikira ndi kukuthokozani—kapena chizindikiro chilichonse choyamikira—kungasonyeze kusasamala ndi kusayamikirana m’kupita kwa nthaŵi.
Kukonza: Ndizosavuta: Onetsani kuyamikira chifukwa cha zoyesayesa zazing'ono nthawi zambiri. (Wokondedwa, sindikukhulupirira kuti unaganiza zotenthetsa galimoto yanga. Unali wokoma mtima kwambiri kwa iwe!) Mchitidwe wamba umenewu ungakhale wamphamvu kwambiri moti sungathe kuwononga ngakhale kumenyana koopsa, malinga ndi kufufuza kofalitsidwa m’magaziniyo. Ubale Waumwini . (Sikuti mumakangana kangati, ndi momwe mumachitirana zomwe zimafunikira, malinga ndi olemba kafukufuku.)
3. Saika patsogolo Miyambo ya Ubale
Zatsopano ndizo zonse ku mgwirizano . (Yang'anani kuwonjezereka kwa malo opatsa mphotho a ubongo wanu komwe kumafanana ndi kuthamanga kwa masiku oyambirira.) Koma chisangalalo chingapezekenso m'zinthu zamba. Mwachitsanzo, mukamakumana patebulo la kukhitchini Lamlungu lililonse kuti muwerenge gawo la malo ogulitsa nyumba kapena kuti, mosasamala kanthu kuti nthawi yogona imapita mochedwa bwanji ndi ana, nthawi zonse mumapumula limodzi ndikubwereza kwa mphindi 20. Schitt's Creek mbali ndi mbali. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, mphindi yomwe inu kapena mnzanuyo mwasankha kungodumphadumpha kapena kungoitenga mopepuka, zowawa zakusasangalala zimatha kutsatira.
Kukonza: Chikondi chokhalitsa chimadyetsedwa ndi pang'ono, nthawi za tsiku ndi tsiku za kugwirizana, malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Dr. John Gottman wa Gottman Institute. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, zing'onozing'ono zomwe timakumana nazo tsiku ndi tsiku zimangowonjezera zambiri - mumangopeza nthawi yochitira.
4. Sagwiritsa Ntchito Nthawi Yabwino… Payokha
Mumanyansidwa ndi nthawi yomwe mnzanuyo amathera akusewera masewera apakanema, koma pazifukwa zina, nthawi zonse mumakhala mbali ndi mbali kuwasangalatsa pamene njira zawo za Madden zimasewera munthawi yeniyeni. Pali dzina la mtundu uwu wa khalidwe: Kumatchedwa kudzikonda ndipo ndikuchita kusiya zinthu zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu kapena kuti ndinu ndani kuti mukhalebe paubwenzi. Koma kuchita zimenezi kumadzetsa mkwiyo. Mu maubwenzi abwino, timagwirizanitsa zosowa zathu ndi zolankhula zathu ndi kufunikira kwathu kugwirizanitsa ndi kugwirizana ndi ena, akufotokoza Dr. Paula Wilbourne, katswiri wa zamaganizo, woyambitsa mgwirizano ndi Chief Scientific Officer Sibly . Koma kudziletsa kumakupangitsani kuti musakhale ndi malire pakati pa kudziyimira pawokha (titi, gulu la yoga lomwe mwakhala mukufuna kuyesa) ndikutumikira zosowa za omwe akuzungulirani. Chotsatira chake ndi chakuti mumakhudzidwa ndi zomwe mnzanuyo amaika patsogolo ndikungopereka mawu pazosowa zawo panthawi imodzimodziyo ndikukwirira zanu.
Kukonza: Lekani kunyengerera zokonda za mnzanu ndikuyika patsogolo nthawi yotalikirana yomwe imalimbikitsa kudzikonda kwanu komanso zomwe zili kunja kwa ubale wanu. (Za kalasi ya yoga: Konzani pamene mnzanu akusewera masewera a pakompyuta ndipo nonse mudzakhala osangalala nawo.) Pambuyo pake, kusapezekapo amachita kukulitsa mtima. Ndizofunikanso 100 peresenti kuti mukhale ndi mgwirizano wosangalala.
5. Amamenyana Kwambiri Kuposa Kugwirizana
Monga tanenera, ndewu ndi gawo la maphunzirowo. Koma malinga ndi kafukufuku wochokera ku Gottman Institute, chodziwikiratu chodziwika bwino cha ngati okwatirana amakhala pamodzi ndi chiŵerengero chawo cha zabwino ndi zoipa. Amachitcha kuti chiŵerengero cha 5: 1 kutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse mumatsutsa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu chifukwa chosiya chopukutira pansi, mumagwiritsanso ntchito zinthu zisanu (kapena kuposerapo) zabwino. Izi zikhoza kukhala kupsompsona, kuyamikira, nthabwala, mphindi yomvetsera mwadala, chizindikiro cha chifundo ndi zina zotero. Mabanja osakondwa amatengera kuyanjana koyipa kuposa zabwino, zomwe sizipereka ma vibes abwino kwa nthawi yayitali.
Kukonza: Dziperekeni limodzi kuti mubweretse kunyada pakuchita kwanu kwatsiku ndi tsiku poseka za mikangano yaying'ono ndi kusunga chakukhosi. (Onani pamwambapa.) Zingakhale zovuta m’nyengo yotentha kupeza zoseketsa, koma pamene muika patsogolo zabwino, m’pamenenso mumasangalala kwambiri.
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