Ndine wosokonekera, mnzanga wochita bwino kwambiri (osatchulapo, wokongola kwambiri) adadandaula ndi khofi m'mawa wina.
Ndinamuphunzira. Osati tsitsi lopanda malo, iye ankawoneka ngati chisokonezo. Komabe mkati mwake anali kumenya nkhondo yolimbana ndi zophophonya zake. Ndikudziwa izi chifukwa ndimachita nthawi zonse. Ndipotu ndimadziwa akazi ambiri amene amachita zimenezi.
Mndandanda wa zolakwika zazing'ono kapena zazikulu zomwe timagwiritsa ntchito zolemba za ine ndizovuta. Kupunthwa ndi mawu ochepa mumsonkhano? Ndine wosokoneza! Muyiwala kuyimitsa nyamayi kuti mudye? Ndine wosokoneza! Kugona polimbitsa thupi? ndi. A. Mess.
Ndine wosokoneza ndi mawu omwe ambiri aife - makamaka akazi - timadzinenera tokha pafupipafupi. Koma chifukwa ?
Tiyeni tiyambe pa chiyambi.
Ndi liti pamene tonse tinaganiza zokhala eni matikiti a Hot Mess Express? Ndipo ndi liti pamene chomanga ichi chinalowa m'malo ambiri? Monga katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi wolemba Mary C. Lamia, PhD , wandiuza, zakhalapo mpaka kalekale.
Kuchokera ku chikhalidwe cha chikhalidwe, uthenga wa 'Ndine chisokonezo' ndi chabe kusintha kwa mawu ogwiritsidwa ntchito m'zaka zonse kufotokoza kupsinjika maganizo, Dr. Lamia anayamba.
Masiku ano timawatcha kuti kusokonezeka kwamalingaliro, adalongosola, yomwe ndi njira yabwino yonenera kuti anthu nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito hyperbole kuti apeze kapangidwe kake ndikufunafuna kulumikizana kwakukulu ndi ena.
Ndinayang'ananso posachedwa Kugonana ndi Mzinda 2 , ndipo kuchokera ku chikhalidwe, komanso chosagwirizana ndi sayansi, ndingatsutsenso kuti nkhani yachisokonezo mu nthawi yamakono inayamba pa laputopu ya Carrie. Sarah Jessica Parker alibe udindo wopanga izi, inde, koma nditawona mawonekedwe ake akupsompsona Aiden ku UAE ndikukwatirana, sindinachite koma kuvomereza kuti akupitiliza.
Monga Mtengo wa SATC chikondi cha mafani cha Manolos, m'badwo wa Amanyamula , Samanthas, Charlottes ndi Mirandas agwirizana pansi pa zifukwa zambiri zomwe miyoyo yathu ili yosokoneza.
Koma n’chifukwa chiyani zikufala kwambiri ndi akazi?
Zambiri za dziko lathu lapansi komanso momwe timalumikizirana nazo zimapangidwira paubwana. Ndipo—zodabwitsa, zodabwitsa—amuna ndi akazi amalandira mauthenga osiyanasiyana.
Dr. Lamia akuti, M'mbiri yakale, kuyanjana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi kwachepetsa kufotokoza m'maganizo mwa amuna ndikulimbikitsa kufotokoza maganizo kwa akazi. Mwachilengedwe, amayi ndi abambo amakhala ndi malingaliro ofanana, komabe zotsatira za chikhalidwe zimatha kuwapangitsa kuti azisiyana m'makhalidwe awo.
Izi zimachitika makamaka, akutsutsa, ndikulephera komanso manyazi - pomwe nthawi zambiri ndimasokonezeka.
Mayankho odzitchinjiriza ku manyazi amaphatikizanso kusiya, kupeŵa, kuukira ena, kapena kudziwukira ('nkhani yachisokonezo') amalingalira. Nkhani imakhudzana ndi njira zonse zomwe timaganizira zakale, zamakono komanso zam'tsogolo. Mwachidziwitso, pamene tikuzungulira nkhaniyo ya moyo wathu, ikhoza kukhala gawo la umunthu wathu.
Chifukwa chake, ngati tilandira mauthenga omwe amalimbikitsa kusakwanira komanso kusokoneza kulephera kuyambira ali achichepere (omwe amadziwikanso kuti kulimbana kwa akazi mwachidule), titha kudalira nkhaniyi ngati njira yothanirana ndi vutoli. Ndipo - chenjezo lowononga - limawononga kudzidalira kwathu.
Zithunzi Zapadziko LonseNanga n'chifukwa chiyani timadzitcha tokha osokonezeka?
Rachel Dash-Dougherty, LCSW, yemwe ndidayankhulanso naye, ali ndi lingaliro lenileni la chiyambi cha nkhani yachisokonezo: Akazi amaphunzitsidwa kukhala odzichepetsa komanso odziimba mlandu kuyambira ali aang'ono. Timalandila mauthenga oti tisawalitse amuna otizungulira. Ndipo chosiyana ndi chowala ndi chiyani? Zosokoneza.
Dr. Lamia, kumbali ina, akufotokoza kuti kuulutsa kwa inu ndinu ‘wosokonezeka’ kungakhale kuyesa kuyanjana ndi ena kaamba ka chitonthozo, chichirikizo ndi chifundo. (Alipo.)
Tsopano popeza takhazikitsa izi, tikupita patsogolo bwanji?
Ndizowonekeratu kuti kudumphira mu Hot Mess Express kuli ndi zovuta zake. Wothandizira moyo wovomerezeka Jane Scudder akuti, Anthu ali ndi mawaya kuti asasinthe. M'kupita kwa nthawi, nkhani zomwe timanena zimalumikizana ndi ubongo wathu ndipo zimakhala zovuta kusintha. Amanenanso kuti ndi njira yaulesi yofikira moyo, ndipo imatilola kuti tituluke pantchito yolimba yosintha. Uwu.
Chabwino, ndiye timakonza bwanji sitimayo? Monga Dr. Lamia akufotokozera, ndizosavuta. Njira yothetsera manyazi iyi, akuti, ndikulumikizana ndi anthu ndikutsegula zomwe zikukudetsani nkhawa. Zedi, kutayira khofi pa bulawuzi yanu kumakwiyitsa, koma chifukwa chiyani kukupangitsani kuti muyambe kudzilankhula molakwika?
Kulowa muzomwe mukumva kumafuna kutchula malingaliro m'malo mowaponyera kuti ndine bulangeti losokoneza. Dr. Lamia akutiuza kuti tigwiritse ntchito malingaliro athu monga chidziwitso ndi mwayi wophunzira. M'malo modziwonetsa kuti ndinu osokonekera, m'malo mwake fotokozani kuti simukudziwa choti muchite ndi malingaliro oyipa omwe mukumva. Kodi ndi nkhawa, manyazi, mantha, kunyansidwa kapena mkwiyo? akufunsa.
Chinthu chimodzi ndi chotsimikizika. Nthawi ina ndikayamba kudzitcha kuti ndine wosokoneza, nditero kwenikweni kuyesera kuti asatero.
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