Pomwe TikTok ndiye malo opangira maphikidwe anzeru, Zojambula za DIY ndi nsonga za kukongola , tawonanso kuphulika kwa zokambirana zazikulu kwambiri papulatifomu, kuyambira pazachiwonetsero mpaka zachipatala ndi zamaganizo. malangizo . Koma nthawi zina, maupangiri ndi zomwe zikuchitika, makamaka pankhani yomanga ndi kusunga maubwenzi achikondi, sizikuwoneka ndendende, zolakwika , wathanzi. Tidawona angapo odziwika bwino a uber a TikTok ndikufunsa katswiri wama neuropsychologist ndi membala waukadaulo ku Columbia University, Dr. Sanam Hafeez , kwa akatswiri ake. Chenjezo la owononga: Onse ndi owononga ubale.
1. Zochitika: Funso la 0
Munjira iyi ya TikTok, mumafunsa mnzanu funso lachinyengo: Kodi mungakonde kundipsompsona 0 kapena munthu wotentha kwambiri padziko lapansi 0? Zachidziwikire, ngati mnzanu atenga nyambo ya $ 700, samawoneka olemekezeka kwambiri. Koma chinyengo chenicheni ngati mnzanu akuyankha, Inu, koma osati inu chifukwa ndiwe munthu wotentha kwambiri padziko lapansi. (Ingofunsani awiri awa .)
Mitu yowononga maubale:
- Mkangano wadala wosafunikira
- Kusakhazikika kwachitetezo
- Kufotokozera zakukhosi kwa wokondedwa wanu
Akatswiri amati: Ngakhale kuti zimenezi zingaoneke ngati zopanda vuto, Dr. Hafeez akuona nkhani yaikulu imene ikungokulirakulirabe: Tiyerekeze kuti Amy afunsa bwenzi lake Jack funso ili pamwambapa. N’kutheka kuti Amy anafunsa funso limeneli chifukwa ankaona kuti sali wotetezeka kapena wokayikira. Ngati Amy ayesa Jack ndi funso lomwe limayambitsa mikangano yosafunikira, atha kutero chifukwa amakayikira chikondi chake pa iye komanso/kapena amawopa kudzipangitsa kukhala pachiwopsezo ndikugawana momwe akumvera. Angaganize kuti Jack nthawi zonse amaganizira za akazi ena kapena amadziona kuti ndi wochepa kwambiri poyerekeza ndi akazi ena. Poyesa mayeso, Amy akuyesera kupeza chitetezo chochulukirapo muubwenzi (mwa kuyembekezera kuti Jack adzamupatsa yankho lomwe akufuna kumva), m'malo mokambirana za kusatetezeka kwake kapena mantha ndi Jack. Chifukwa china chochitira mayeso otere ndicho kuyambitsa ndewu mwadala. Amy atha kuyambitsa ndewu mwadala kuti awone momwe angakankhire Jack mpaka kulumikizana kwawo kutha, ngati anali ndi tsiku loyipa, kapena chifukwa akuwonetsa malingaliro ake oyipa pa Jack.
Zoyenera kuchita m'malo mwake: M'malo mofunsa mafunso amtunduwu, Dr. Hafeez akulangiza, yesani kukambirana zakukhosi kwanu, khalani owona mtima ndikupempha zomwe mukufuna ndi zomwe mukufuna mu chiyanjano. Komanso ganizirani mmene mukudzionera. Ngati mulibe chidaliro ndipo simukudzikonda nokha, zingakhale zovuta kukhulupirira kuti wina angatero.
2. Zochitika: Mayesero a Kukhulupirika
Munjira iyi ya TikTok, kasitomala wokhudzidwa amafunsa kazitape kuti ayese kukhulupirika, pomwe kazitapeyo amatengera munthu wofunikira kuti ayambe kukopana (kapena ayi) pa ma DM. Kazitapeyo amatumiza uthengawo kwa kasitomala, ndipo kasitomala amasankha ngati akufuna kukhala limodzi ndi munthuyu. Mutha kuwona chinthu chonsecho chikufalikira Pano kumene mlengi Chesathebrat DMs chibwenzi cha mkazi yemwe ali ndi selfie yokongola komanso makalata okopana amatsatira, zomwe zimatsogolera mkaziyo kupukuta manja ake kwa chibwenzi chake.
Mitu yowononga maubale:
- Sabotaging trust
- Kulakwa
- Kuwongolera zizolowezi
Akatswiri amati: Iyi si njira yabwino yothetsera vuto lachinyengo, Dr. Hafeez akunena kuti palibe kanthu. Chifukwa zenizeni, mungamve bwanji ngati mnzanu akukuchitirani opareshoni mobisa? Kodi mungawakhulupirirenso? Kodi mungawaone ngati osakhwima maganizo? Kodi izi zingachititse kuti musiyane nawo? Ziribe kanthu zotsatira zake, mukakhala ndi wina DM wanu wofunikira, mumakhala munthu wosadalirika. Ngati bwenzi lanu lapambana mayeso, muyenera kukhala ndi mlandu womuyesa, ndipo mukuwononga chidaliro chanu ndi ubale wanu, Dr. Hafeez akufotokoza. Ndipo tinene kuti mnzanuyo sakupambana mayesowa, mukudzipangira nokha njira zosayenera zothanirana ndi nkhawa zomwe muli nazo muubwenzi. Mutha kukhala ndi chizolowezi chongoyang'ana pafoni yawo kapena kuzembera mbiri yawo yapa media media kapena kuyesanso mtundu uwu (kwa iwo kapena munthu wina).
Zoyenera kuchita m'malo mwake: Akutero Dr. Hafeez, Kulankhulana moona mtima ndiyo njira yabwino yothetsera kukayikira kwanu pankhani ya chinyengo. Choyamba, dziwani chifukwa chake mukumva ngati akubera. Kenako, lembani malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu ndi mbendera zofiira kuti liti inu lankhulani ndi bwenzi lanu simukudziwa momwe mukumvera. Onetsetsani kuti nonse muli pamalo omwe mumakhala omasuka komanso otetezeka. Pomaliza, mvetserani ndi kumva wina ndi mzake.
3. Zomwe Zimachitika: Kugwidwa ndi Chinyengo
Kuchulukirachulukira, anthu akugwiritsa ntchito TikTok (ndi malo ena ochezera a pa Intaneti) kuyika kubera kwachinyengo pazovuta zam'mbuyomu m'njira zazikulu ndi zazing'ono. Mu kanema wothamanga mwachangu , mlengi Sydneykinsch amagawana momwe adadziwira kuti chibwenzi chake chazaka zinayi chikumunyengerera atatumiza selfie ndipo adayang'ana chithunzithunzi cha magalasi ake kuti awone mkazi winayo. Mavidiyo ena ogwidwa-akunyengerera kunja uko amatha kuchititsa manyazi dala, monga Ic , pomwe gulu la abwenzi akusewera Sindinayambe Ndakhalapo pa kamera modzidzimutsa-kuukira mnzako mmodzi yemwe akuti anapsompsona chibwenzi cha mtsikana wina.
Mitu yowononga maubale:
- Manyazi
- Kubwezera
Akatswiri amati: Pali zifukwa zambiri zochititsa manyazi munthu wachinyengo, akutero Dr. Hafeez—mwina mungamve kuti akuyenera kulangidwa, kapena mungafune kudziona kuti ndinu wapamwamba kapena wolamulira kapena kusonyeza kuti simukugwirizana ndi khalidwe lawo. Koma, akuchenjeza Dr. Hafeez, kuchita manyazi poyera munthu ali ndi zotsatira zowononga nthawi yayitali onse maphwando. Kuchita manyazi n’kosayenera chifukwa kumapangitsa anthu kudziona ngati odziipidwa ndi kukayikira kufunika kwake, ndipo nthawi zambiri sikubweretsa kusintha kapena kuthetsa makhalidwe ena a munthu amene akuchita manyazi.
Zoyenera kuchita m'malo mwake: Kwa iwo omwe akulimbana ndi kunyengedwa, choyamba, kumbukirani kuti silinali vuto lanu. Maupangiri ena othana nawo akuphatikizira kudzizungulira ndi omwe amakukondani kuti akuthandizeni m'malingaliro, kuchita kudzisamalira, kupempha thandizo ndikufika kwa akatswiri kapena akatswiri amisala kuti mukambirane zakukhosi kwanu, akulangiza Dr. Hafeez. Zitha kutenga nthawi yochulukirapo kuposa momwe mukuganizira, ndipo zili bwino.
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