Abale omwe amamenyana kwambiri amapeza zodabwitsa ubwino , kuchokera ku zikopa zonenepa kupita ku luso lotha kukambirana. Kuphatikiza apo, makolo a Savvy amadziwa kuti ubale wopanda mikangano pakati pa abale si wofanana ndi ubale wapamtima, amalemba Chicago Tribune wolemba nkhani za makolo Heidi Stevens. Cholinga chake ndi kukhala ndi ana omwe amakonda kwambiri monga momwe amamenyera nkhondo. Nawa maupangiri anayi olera abwenzi apamtima omwe amagawana chilichonse, kuphatikiza inu.
kupicoo/Getty ImagesMenyani mwanzeru pamaso pawo
Makolo akamathetsa kusamvana ndi kukwiyirana mwaulemu, amatengera chitsanzo cha mmene ana awo ayenera kuchitira. Ngati mumenya zitseko, kutukwana, kapena, zinthu zenizeni zapakhomo, ndiye kuti adzakutengerani nthawi ina wina akakankha mabatani awo. Kodi mwawonjezera chilimbikitso kuti mugunde pamwamba pa lamba (wamalingaliro)? Ana sangathe kusunga zinsinsi. Funsani aliyense amene wafera m’kati pang’ono pamene mwana wake anali kuuza dokotala wa mano mmene Amayi anaponyera dzira la dzira kwa Atate.
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Makumi 20Mukakayikira, aloleni akonze
Pokhapokha ngati ndewu za ana anu zatsala pang’ono kuloŵa m’malo okhetsa mwazi kapena kupezerera anzawo, kapena iwo ali m’chitsanzo chimene mwana wamkulu amawoneka kuti nthaŵi zonse amalamulira wamng’ono, apatseni miniti imodzi musanaloŵe. Malinga ndi akatswiri, mikangano ya abale ndi mwayi wofunikira kukula. Kulowererapo kwa tsitsi kumangokulitsa kudalira kwawo kwa inu ngati woweruza. Ndiponso, kuloŵerera kungatanthauze kutenga mbali—njira yotsimikizirika yosonkhezera mikangano ya abale. Kungakhale kovuta kwambiri kusiyiratu ndi kuona mmene akumvera m’maganizo kusiyana ndi kuyesa kuthetsa mavuto a ana anu nthaŵi yomweyo, akulemba motero katswiri wa kulera ana Michelle Woo, akumatchula kafukufuku wokhudza mmene ana a ku Germany ndi Japan amakhalira odzidalira mwa kuthetsa mavuto pakati pawo. . [Chimene ana] amafunikira ndicho chitsogozo chokhazikika, malo odziŵirako malingaliro awo, chitsanzo cha kukoma mtima. Chomwe mwina safunikira ndikuyang'anira osewera aliyense. Monga Jeffrey Kluger, wolemba Zotsatira za Abale: Zomwe Ubale Pakati pa Abale ndi Alongo Zimavumbula za Ife , adauza NPR : Chimodzi mwazokhudza kwambiri abale ndi alongo anu pa inu ndi luso lotha kuthetsa kusamvana, gawo la kupanga ubale ndi kukonza.
Makumi 20Kapena ayi! Yesani izi m'malo mwake
Akatswiri ochuluka a zamaganizo ndi aphunzitsi amalumbira ndi njira yothetsera kusamvana yotchedwa Magulu Obwezeretsa . Mumalowera kumayambiriro kwa ndewu ndikupempha ana anu kuti apume kwambiri ndikukhala nanu modekha mozungulira. (Mwachiwonekere, chifukwa cha kukuwa kwa ndewu za banshee, kulekana ndi kutonthoza zimadza poyamba.) Kwa mphindi zochepa chabe, mwana aliyense amapeza mpata wolankhula madandaulo ake (Mumafunsa kuti: Kodi mukufuna kuti mbale wanu adziwe chiyani?), ndi mwana winayo( ren) akufunsidwa kumasulira zomwe angomva kumene (Mwamva mlongo wanu akunena chiyani?). Kenako mumabwereranso kwa mwana woyamba (Ndi zomwe mumatanthawuza?) mpaka kumvetsetsana kufikire / ana onse akumva kumveka. Kenako aliyense akambirane malingaliro ake kuti apeze yankho labwino.
Makumi 20Banja lomwe limasewera limodzi limakhala limodzi
Ngakhale—makamaka—ngati ana anu ali ngati mafuta ndi madzi, kapena atalikirana zaka zingapo, zingakhale zokopa kuwalola kukhala ndi moyo wosiyana. Yesani kutero. Sankhani zoseweretsa zomwe zimakopa anthu azaka zonse (Tikwatireni, Bristle Blocks !), Zochita zamagulu kumapeto kwa sabata kapena tchuthi chabanja, ndipo zimawafunsa kuti aziwonekera pamasewera a wina ndi mnzake kapena zobwereza. Mosasamala kanthu kuti amamenyana mochuluka bwanji, kafukufuku amasonyeza chifukwa chokhalira ndi chiyembekezo. Pafupifupi 10, 15 peresenti ya maubwenzi a abale ndi alongo alidi oopsa kwambiri moti sangachiritsidwe, akutero Kluger. Koma 85 peresenti ali paliponse kuyambira kukhazikika mpaka kowopsa. Kupatula apo, iye anati: Makolo athu amatisiya posakhalitsa, akazi athu ndi ana athu amabwera mochedwa…Abale ndiwo maubwenzi atali kwambiri omwe tingakhale nawo pamoyo wathu.
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