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Hei, makolo a ana aang'ono!
Kodi mukuganiza kuti makolo athu anali ndi vuto pankhani yolera ana? Kodi nthawi zina mumamva kuti ndi choncho zovuta kukhala kholo tsopano kuposa zaka 30 zapitazo?
Ngati mwayankha kuti inde, simuli nokha.
Ndisanakhale mayi, ndinawona makolo otopa komanso oda nkhawa akubwera kuofesi yanga mwaunyinji. Ndinayamba kudabwa kuti n’chifukwa chiyani ife monga makolo m’badwo uno timaoneka oda nkhawa komanso opanikizika kwambiri m’maudindo amenewa kuposa makolo athu oyambirira.
Ndiyeno ine adakhala mayi ndikuyamba kutumiza zinthu pa social media . Apa ndipamene zinandidziwikiratu chifukwa chake timakhala opsinjika kwambiri, otopa komanso otopa monga makolo lero.
Ma social media
Ma social media ndi lupanga lakuthwa konsekonse. Pali lingaliro la anthu ammudzi komanso kudzoza kochuluka ndi maphunziro omwe alipo, koma kungathenso kukupangitsani kumva ngati simukuchita mokwanira kapena alibe zokwanira. Zaka makumi atatu zapitazo, makolo athu adalera mwana yemwe anali patsogolo pawo - osayang'ana mafoni awo kaye.
Panalibe maakaunti pama social network omwe amawauza kuti akuchita zolakwika. Panalibe zakudya zosungidwa bwino za ana akhalidwe labwino muzovala zofananira nazo. Analera ana ndi kukambirana nkhani ndi mwanayo pamaso pawo pomuyerekezera mochepa.
Zedi, panali abwenzi mumsewu kapena achibale, koma moyo wa aliyense sunali pa nkhope zawo maola 24 pa tsiku, masiku asanu ndi awiri pa sabata.
Kuwonetseredwa kosalekeza kwa moyo wosamaliridwa bwino pazakudya zanu kungakupangitseni kumva ngati ndinu osakwanira komanso kuti simukuchita mokwanira. Ngakhale zili choncho, zimatha kukupangitsani kukhala wopsinjika komanso wosasangalala, ndikudzifunsa kuti ndi chiyani china chomwe muyenera kuchita kapena kugula kuti mukhale ndi anzanu.
Ndilo masewera omaliza ofananitsa. Ndipo tikasochera m’mafoni athu ndi zimene wina aliyense akuchita, timaiwala mwana amene akukula ndi kuchita bwino pamaso pathu.
Zambiri zachulukira
Kodi mukufuna kudziwa za kulera ana? Palibe njira yabwino kwambiri. Ndizofuna kupeza njira yomwe imakugwirirani ntchito - koma koposa zonse, yomwe imagwira ntchito pa chikhalidwe cha mwana wanu.
Malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, abwenzi kapena achibale angakuuzeni zoyenera kuchita ndi mwana wanu, ndipo zambiri zoterezi zingakulepheretseni ife monga makolo atsopano. Kulera - mwa lingaliro langa - ndi udindo wodzazidwa ndi chidziwitso. Ngati inu anatsekereza phokoso lonse , anazimitsa zododometsa zonse ndi kuyang'ana pa mwana pamaso panu, inu mukhoza kulera mwana wodabwitsa.
Ndikuganiza kuti ndikofunikira kwambiri kuphunzitsidwa za kulera ndi thanzi la ana ndi thanzi, koma ndikuyembekeza kuti mudzalandira chidziwitsocho mopanda chigamulo, chodzaza ndi zosankha zosiyanasiyana. Cholinga chake ndikuti chidziwitsochi chikupatseni mtendere wamalingaliro - osachotsapo. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuwona kuti mukuchulukirachulukira, pezani pang'onopang'ono kuchokera kuzinthu izi zomwe zitha kuyambitsa malingaliro osakwanira komanso kupsinjika.
Kukwera mtengo kwa chisamaliro cha ana
Poyerekeza ndi m'badwo wa makolo athu, mtengo wakulera mwana wakwera kwambiri , ngakhale kuwerengera za kukwera kwa mitengo. Mabanja ambiri omwe amapeza ndalama ziwiri nthawi zambiri amayenera kusankha ngati angatumize mwana wawo ku chisamaliro cha ana, kulemba ganyu woyamwitsa, kapena ngati zingakhale zomveka kuti kholo limodzi lisiye. Izi sizimawerengeranso makolo olera okha ana omwe amayeneranso kugwira ntchito ndikuganizira njira zoperekera chisamaliro cha ana kwa ana awo. Mtengo wa chisamaliro cha ana ukukwera, ndipo kukhazikika kwa moyo wantchito kukuoneka kukhala kovuta kupeza.
Mu mliri, makolo ambiri (makamaka amayi) anasankha kusiya ntchito , chomwe ndi chitsanzo chabwino cha momwe kulera kwamakono sikumathandizira amayi nthawi zonse. Makolo (makamaka akazi) amayenera kupanga zisankho zovuta, nthawi zina kuyimitsa ntchito zawo kuti athe kupereka chisamaliro cha ana chifukwa cha mtengo wake. Izi zimawonjezera kupsinjika maganizo, zomwe zingapangitse kulera mwana kukhala kosangalatsa.
Chikhumbo chathu cha ungwiro
Mbadwo wathu nawonso wazoloŵera kukhutiritsa nthaŵi yomweyo. Mukufuna chakudya chiperekedwe pasanathe mphindi 20? Kuyitanitsa pa foni yanu. Kodi mukufuna chinthu chatsopano tsiku lomwelo? Ingoyang'anani bokosilo. Mwana wanu ali ndi vuto? Konzani nthawi yomweyo. Koma si momwe ana amagwirira ntchito.
M'badwo wa makolo athu, nthawi zambiri ankapereka zinthu nthawi. Panalibe kutengeka uku kofunikira kukonza ana athu. Izi ndi makamaka ndi chitukuko . Kuyanjanitsa kuyembekezera ndi kulowererapo mwamsanga n'kofunika, koma kuchitapo kanthu mwamsanga kwakhala chizolowezi. Ngakhale kuti izi zingapereke phindu, zingatipangitsenso kuda nkhawa kuti sitikuchita mokwanira kapena ana athu sali angwiro mokwanira - pamene mwinamwake, mwinamwake, akusowa nthawi.
Cholinga changa kwa makolo m’nthaŵi yamakono ndicho kulinganiza chidziŵitso ndi maphunziro amene tiri nawo tsopano ndi kusinthasintha kumene makolo athu anali nako pamene anali kutilera. Ndikuganiza kuti uku kungakhale kusakanikirana koyenera kubweretsa mtendere wambiri pakulera.
Ngati mudasangalala nayo nkhaniyi, onani makolo ena a zaka chikwi akumva ‘nkhawa zazikulu’!
