Mwana wanu amayamba kuyang'ana zochitika zokwana milioni imodzi kuchokera tsiku limene anabadwa-kuyambira kumwetulira kusekerera kwake koyamba mpaka kubwebweta mpaka kukwawa. Koma masitepe ake oyamba akhoza kukhala nthawi yomwe mumakondwera nayo. Ndiye ana amayamba kuyenda liti? Ambiri amatenga masitepe awo oyambirira pafupi ndi miyezi 12, koma mwana aliyense amakhala wosiyana ndipo ena angayambe kuyenda pang'onopang'ono chizindikiritso cha miyezi 12 kapena pang'ono pang'ono, akutero dokotala wa ana wa ku New York, Dr. Cherilyn Cecchini.
Kodi mwana wanu ayamba kuyenda posachedwa?
Ana asanatenge masitepe oyambirira, ayenera kudutsa m'mipata ya chitukuko kuti akonzekere, chifukwa, monga momwe mwambi umanenera, muyenera kuphunzira kukwawa musanayambe kuyenda. Nthawi zambiri, makanda amayamba kukwawa pakati pa miyezi isanu ndi iwiri mpaka khumi. Pofuna kulimbikitsa zimenezi, Dr. Cecchini akuti makolo amatha kuika zoseŵeretsa pamalo amene sangafikeko panthaŵi ya mimba (pamene makanda akuphunzira kusinthasintha m’mimba). Nthawi ya mimba imathandizira kulimbitsa minofu yapakati pamimba komanso kukhazikika bwino, kotero ndi njira yabwino yothandizira kukonzekera makanda kukwawa ndi kuyenda.
Pafupifupi miyezi isanu ndi inayi, makanda amayamba kudzikweza okha, pogwiritsa ntchito mipando kuti iwathandize kuyimirira (choncho onetsetsani kuti mwateteza zinthu zilizonse zosagwedezeka zomwe angayese kuzigwira). Ichi ndi chizindikiro chimodzi chosonyeza kuti akukonzekera kuyenda posachedwapa, Dr. Cecchini akufotokoza. Mwana wanu akamamasuka kuima, akhoza kuyamba kuchita zinthu zing'onozing'ono atagwira dzanja lanu kapena akugwira zinthu. Kumeneku kumatchedwa ‘kuyenda panyanja.’ Panthawi imeneyi, mwana wanu angayambe kuyenda kuchoka pa mipando ina kupita pa ina, ndipo akhoza kumasuka ndi kuyima popanda kum’thandiza. (Apanso ndipamene mudzafunika kutsimikizira nyumba yanu ndikuyika m'mphepete ndi ngodya zilizonse zakuthwa.)
Apanso ndipamene mwana wanu angakhale akugwada, ndipo mwinamwake akugwira chidole kuchokera pansi kuchokera pamalo oyimirira. Panthawiyi, akhoza kutenga masitepe angapo akugwira dzanja lanu, koma sangakhale okonzeka kudzipita yekha.
Komabe, pakangotha milungu ingapo pambuyo pake, mosakayikira atenga gawo lake loyamba losakhazikika. Ikhoza kukhala sitepe imodzi yokha poyamba, koma posachedwapa idzakhala masitepe angapo panthawi, mwinamwake m'manja mwanu akudikirira. Ana ambiri amachoka pa masitepe oyambirirawa n’kuyamba kuyenda molimba mtima m’masiku ochepa chabe, ndipo pamapeto pake amaphunzira kuima ndi kusintha kumene akupita. Pachiyambi, mwana wanu amayenda ndi miyendo yake kutali ndi mapazi akuyang'ana kunja kuti athandize kukhala okhazikika.
Monga tafotokozera, masitepe oyamba nthawi zambiri amapezeka pa tsiku loyamba lobadwa, ndikuyenda molimba mtima pakadutsa miyezi 14 kapena 15. Koma makanda ena samayamba kuyenda mpaka atakwanitsa miyezi 16 kapena 17, kapena kupitirirapo.
Kumbukirani kuti ana enanso amadumpha sitepe kwathunthu. Makolo ambiri amayembekezera kuti mwana wawo azikhala, kenako kukwawa, ndiyeno kuyenda, koma nthawi zina sizili choncho, akufotokoza motero Dr. Brittany Odom, dokotala wa ana wa ku Orlando. Ana ena amadumpha pagawo lokwawa ndipo m'malo mwake amakwera pansi kapena kutsetsereka pamimba, kenako amangoyenda ndikuyenda.
Momwe mungathandizire mwana wanu kuphunzira kuyenda
Ngakhale kuti simungathe kuphunzitsa mwana wanu kuyenda, mukhoza kulimbikitsa makhalidwe ena ndikupereka chithandizo. Mwachitsanzo, makanda akamaphunzira kukoka kuti aime, nthawi zina samadziwa momwe angadzichepetsere ndipo amatha kukangana pamene 'amamatira' pamalo awo omwe angowapeza kumene, akutero Dr. Odom. Ngati mwana wanu akulira kuti akuthandizeni, muwonetseni momwe angapindire mawondo awo kuti athe kudzitsitsa.
Komanso, kungogwada patsogolo pawo ndi manja anu otambasula, kuwalimbikitsa kuti ayende kwa inu, kapena kuwagwira manja ndi kuwatsogolera kwa inu kungakhale chithandizo chonse chomwe akufunikira kuti ayambe kuyenda.
Ndipo ngakhale mungayesedwe kuti mupatse mwana wanu mwendo pogula mwana woyenda, American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) samalimbikitsa kuzigwiritsa ntchito chifukwa akhoza kukhumudwitsa mwana wanu kuti asaphunzire kuyenda ndipo zingakhale zoopsa kwambiri. Ndipotu, oyenda amatha kuchepetsa kukula kwa kuyenda ndipo angayambitse kuvulala kwakukulu, Dr. Cecchini akuti. Makanda omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zoyenda amatha kupunthwa ndi kugwa, kugwa masitepe kapena kulowa m'malo oopsa omwe sakanafikako.
M'malo mwake, yesani choyenda choyima kapena malo ochitira zinthu, omwe alibe mawilo, mipando yokhayo yomwe imazungulira ndikudumpha. Koma kuti mulimbikitse kusuntha, lolani mwana wanu kukwawa, kuyimirira ndikufufuza payekha momwe angathere. Izi zikutanthawuzanso kuwanyamula pang'ono kuti azilimbikitsidwa kuti asamuke. Akayimirira ndikuyenda, mungafune kuwonetsa chidole chomwe chili cholimba kuti athe kuchikoka.
Komanso, tikudziwa kuti palibe chinthu chokongola kuposa nsapato zachinyamata, koma ndibwino kuti mulole mwana wanu apite opanda nsapato. Izi zimawathandiza kukhala oyenerera komanso ogwirizana komanso amapereka kukhazikika chifukwa cha zala zomwe zimagwira. Malinga ndi AAP, makanda amaphunzira kuyenda pogwira pansi ndi zala zawo ndikugwiritsa ntchito zidendene zawo kuti zikhazikike. Izi zimathandiza kupanga minofu yofunikira poyenda ndipo zimakhala zosavuta kuchita popanda masokosi kapena nsapato.
Zoonadi ngati mwana wanu ayamba kuyenda panja kapena pa malo osagwirizana, otentha kapena ozizira, valani nsapato, koma sankhani mapeyala omwe amatha kupuma ndi zitsulo zosinthika, zopepuka, ndipo onetsetsani kuti ali ndi malo osunthira ndikukula.
Chifukwa chiyani makanda ena amayamba kuyenda pambuyo pake
Mwana aliyense ndi wosiyana, akuyenda ndikuphunzira kuyendayenda padziko lapansi pamayendedwe awo, Dr. Odom akuti. Chilichonse chofunikira (kukhala, kuyenda, kuyenda) chimafuna mphamvu ndi luso lachitukuko. Ngati mwana wanu sanapeze mphamvu zokwanira kapena luso lofunikira, sangakwaniritse chochitikacho.
Ndipo ngati mwana wanu akukwera ndikuyenda pa miyezi 15 koma sanachitepo kanthu, musachite mantha, akhoza kungoyamba mochedwa. Koma funsani dokotala wa ana anu za nkhawa zilizonse zomwe mungakhale nazo ngati pakufunika kuyezetsanso. Ndikofunikira kuyang'ana momwe mwana wanu akuchitira ponseponse, m'magawo onse akukula. Ngati mwana wanu sakuyenda pakadutsa miyezi 18, lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu ngati mwana wanu akufunika kuyezetsa kakulidwe kake.
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