Pali kusiyana pakati pa kubwerezanso nkhani yochititsa manyazi kuti anzanu aseke komanso kuthana ndi malingaliro oyipa omwe amabweretsa. Zonsezi zitha kukhala njira zothanirana ndi zoopsa, koma zomalizazi ndizofunikira kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino m'maganizo, m'thupi komanso m'malingaliro. Sikuti nthawi zonse zochititsa manyazi zomwe timakumana nazo sizikhala nthawi yayitali, koma ena amatero. Izi ndi nthawi zomwe zimatha kukula mkati mwathu. Amasandulika makwino omwe timawagwiritsitsa, kutitchera msampha ndi kutilepheretsa kukwaniritsa zomwe tingathe.
Ngati izi zikumveka zodziwika bwino, konzekerani zochitika zisanu ndi zitatu zosiya kusungira chakukhosi zomwe zingakuthandizeni kupitiriza ndi moyo wanu. Kumasula chakukhosi ndi kuphunzira kukhululuka sikophweka, koma nkoyenera.
Kodi kusunga chakukhosi ndi chiyani?
Kusunga chakukhosi ndi kupsa mtima kosatha kumene munthu amamva akachitiridwa nkhanza. Mawu ofananirako amaphatikiza mkwiyo ndi umbrage, ngakhale kukwiyitsa kumalumikizidwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro oyipa omwe amakhalapo pambuyo pa chochitika, m'malo mwazomwe zimatuluka panthawi imodzi. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kukwiya pamene bwana wanu amalankhula kwa inu pamaso pa gulu lanu, koma inu mudzamva mkwiyo kenako tsiku limenelo mukakumbukira zomwe zinachitika. Kukwiyitsa kumapitilira pakapita nthawi ndipo kumakhala chikhalidwe chachiwiri, chifukwa chake kumakhala kovuta kugwedezeka.
N’chifukwa chiyani kulola kuli kofunika?
Kukhalabe ndi malingaliro oipidwa nkoipa kwa inu—kwenikweni. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kusunga chakukhosi kumawonjezera kuthamanga kwa magazi , kugunda kwa mtima ndi ntchito zamanjenje. Kapenanso, kukumbatira kukhululukidwa kungapangitse thanzi labwino mwa kuchepetsa kupsinjika maganizo.
Kuwonjezera pa thanzi la thupi, kusiya kukhoza kupititsa patsogolo thanzi la munthu, maubwenzi ndi njira ya ntchito. Zaumoyo malipoti mkwiyo womangika wolunjika ku phwando limodzi akhoza kutuluka mu ubale wina. Kukwiyira bwenzi lapamtima chifukwa chakunamizirani kungasonyeze polalatira ana anu mwakuwagwetsera chipewa. Mwaukadaulo, malinga ndi Forbes , Ogwira ntchito omwe amatha kulingalira mozama za kutsutsidwa kolimbikitsa ndi kupitilira mkwiyo uliwonse womwe umayambitsa 42 peresenti yowonjezereka kukonda ntchito yawo. Tsoka ilo, antchito osakwana 25 peresenti amatha kutero.
N’chifukwa chiyani zikuyenda movutirapo chonchi?
Ah, funso la madola milioni. Ngati kupita patsogolo kunali kosavuta, kuphweka, pepani, kungathetse mikangano yambiri. Tonse tinkakhala ku Whoville ndipo sipakanakhala Grinch. Chinsinsi chopitira patsogolo ndikukhululuka, koma kukhululuka sikumabwera mosavuta kwa anthu ambiri. Pamafunika kuleza mtima, chifundo ndi chiwopsezo, mikhalidwe itatu yomwe ambiri aife timayenera kuigwiritsa ntchito pafupipafupi.
Kuphatikiza apo, a Robert Enright, PhD, akuti kubwereza kukwiyitsa nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa kumverera kwa chisangalalo (i.e. kubwerezanso nkhani yochititsa manyazi kuti anzanu aseke). Pamene anzanu amakutsimikizirani mosalekeza kuti muli ndi ufulu wokhumudwa, bwanji mumenye nawo?
Vuto n’lakuti, kukwiyilana m’kupita kwa nthawi kumakhala chizolowezi. Posachedwapa, nkhani zanu zonse zidzakhutitsidwa ndi mkwiyo ndipo anzanu adzatopa kumva nkhani yowawa yomweyi mobwerezabwereza. Choncho, yambani kuimba nyimbo ina. M'munsimu muli zochitika zisanu ndi zitatu zapadera zokuthandizani kuti muchotse chakukhosi. Chotsani chakukhosi ndi kupitiriza ndi moyo wanu!
8 Kuleka Kuchita Zochita Zolimbitsa Thupi
1. Tafotokozani
Simungathe kuchiritsa ngati simukudziwa chomwe chasweka. Kulozera gwero la chakukhosi ndi sitepe yoyamba yakuleka. Kuti muchite izi, ndikwabwino kwambiri kulankhula mokweza. Kuuza mnzanu, wothandizira kapena wachibale wanu momwe mukumvera kungakhale komasula kwambiri. Ngati izi sizingatheke, lembani kalata yomwe simutumiza. Mukhoza kulembera munthu amene wayambitsa mkwiyo wanu popanda kudziletsa; mukhoza kulemba kwa wokondedwa amene amakuthandizani; mukhoza kungodzilembera nokha m'buku. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndicho kuthetsa chifukwa. Izi zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri chifukwa zimabweretsa malingaliro oyipa ndikukupemphani kuti mubwererenso zowawa. Mutha kulira. Palibe kanthu! Misozi ndiyo njira ya thupi lanu yochotsera nkhawa.
2. Gwiritsani ntchito pulogalamu yosinkhasinkha
Kukwiyitsa, mkwiyo ndi nkhawa zonse ndizomwe zimachitika, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti zimachokera kumalingaliro oyambira monga manyazi, kusatetezeka komanso kuwawa. Mukamaphunzira kulolera, ndikofunikira kupatsa malingaliro oyambawo kukhalapo. Dr. Jud Brewer , katswiri pa nkhani ya nkhawa, anapanga Kuthetsa Nkhawa app kuthandiza anthu kuchepetsa kwambiri malingaliro oyipa achiwiri mwa kusamala. Mapulogalamu ena, monga bata ndi Headspace , wongolerani anthu pakusinkhasinkha kolunjika kugwiritsira ntchito mphamvu zamaganizo oipa ndikuchikonzanso kukhala chinthu chabwino. Imeneyi ikhoza kukhala njira yabwino yothetsera mkwiyo kuti mutha kuthana ndi ululu ndikupita patsogolo.
3. Chotsani chakukhosi kwanu
Anzanu akale, abwenzi akale ndi anthu oopsa m’moyo mwanu muli zifukwa zofala za mkwiyo. Mwasiyana nawo, ndiye bwanji osasiya kukwiya komweko? Clarity Clinic imalangiza kupanga mtunda wautali momwe ndingathere pakati panu ndi ex wanu. Yendani m'dera lanu ndikuchotsa (kapena kubisala) chilichonse chomwe chimayambitsa mkwiyo. Gulitsani bukulo lomwe ex wanu wankhanza yemwe adakupatsani! Perekani juzi lomwe mudavala abwana anu akukunyozani! Pambuyo pake, khalani ndi anthu omwe amakukondani ndi kukulemekezani. Dzisangalatseni ndi juzi latsopano. Werengani buku lovomerezedwa ndi munthu amene mumasirira.
4. Sinthani kawonedwe kanu
Akatswiri awiri a zamaganizo, Özlem Ayduk wochokera ku yunivesite ya California-Berkeley ndi Ethan Kross ochokera ku yunivesite ya Michigan, adaphunzira zotsatira za kudzipatula pa maganizo oipa. Kudzitalikitsa ndikuchitanso kubwereza zomwe zikuchitika m'maganizo mwanu ngati kuti mukuziwonera mchipindamo. Yang'ananinso chochitika chomwe chikukukwiyitsani osaganizira zomwe winayo akuganiza kapena kumva panthawiyo. Kodi munthuyo anachita chiyani? Kodi munthuyo analankhula mawu otani? Ganizirani za ntchitoyi ngati kuchepetsa kutanthauzira kwanu kokhudza mtima, kumveketsa zenizeni m'malo mwake. Poyeserera kudzipatula, omwe adachita nawo kafukufuku wa Ayduk ndi Kross adatha kuyandikira njira yawo yochiritsira kuchokera pamalo odziwonetsera okha komanso kuthetsa mavuto, m'malo mokhala malo okhudzidwa mtima.
5. Landirani chakukhosi
Obwezera-ludzu-osunga chakukhosi angakonde kumveka kwa zochitikazi poyamba, koma zimapitilira kulola kusungira chakukhosi. Sophie Hannah akutenga njira yosagwirizana ndi machiritso m'buku lake, Mmene Mungasungire Chakukhosi . Mfundo yake ndi iyi: Muyenera kuphunzirapo kanthu pa kukwiya kwanu. Sizingangokhala pamenepo, kutenga malo osachita kalikonse. Hana akuumiriza kuti mumve malingaliro onse okhudzana ndi kukwiyira ndikulemba nkhani yonse yoyambira, ndikuwunikira zomwe mumakhulupirira kuti zinali zoyenera kuchita nthawi imeneyo komanso zomwe zingakhale zoyenera kuchita lero. Kenako ganizirani zimene mwaphunzira m’nkhaniyo. Zochita izi sizimakufunsani kuti mukhululukire, koma zimakupemphani kuti muthokoze gwero la chidani chanu chifukwa chakuphunzitsani phunziro la moyo.
6. Sinthani nsapato ndi gwero
Kuyenda mtunda wa makilomita mu nsapato za wina kumakupatsani chidziwitso chabwino cha komwe akuchokera, komwe adakhala komanso chifukwa chake amachita momwe amachitira. Monga Judith Orloff, MD, akufotokozera m'buku lake, Ufulu Wamaganizo , kumvetsa chisoni cha munthu wina kumabweretsa chifundo chachikulu kwa ena. Chifundo, kapena chisoni chowonadi kaamba ka tsoka la ena, ndicho chigawo chachikulu cha kukhululukira. Tikaganizira mfundo yakuti khalidwe la munthu liyenera kukhala logwirizana kwambiri ndi katundu wawo kusiyana ndi momwe timachitira, zimasintha momwe timaonera kuyanjana ndi munthuyo. Ndikoyeneranso kulemba zochita zomwe mwina mwachita zomwe zidavulaza munthu winayo.
7. Sankhani mawu omveka bwino
Urban Balance , gulu lochokera ku Chicago la akatswiri oposa 150 omwe ali ndi chilolezo, amalimbikitsa mphamvu ya chinenero chabwino. M’malo molola kuti maganizo a chakukhosi asokoneze maganizo anu, sankhani mawu kapena mawu osonyeza kuyamikira kapena kumvetsa zinthu. Yesani ndi mawu osiyanasiyana omwe amatanthauza kanthu kwa inu komanso omwe amathandizira kusintha malingaliro anu. Zitha kukhala ngati za Aristotle, Kuleza mtima ndi kowawa, koma zipatso zake ndi zokoma. Mwina ndi mawu chabe, monga kumasula kapena kukhululuka. Mkwiyo ukangobwera, aimitseni ndi mawu awa. Zochita izi zimatha kumva ngati zotsekemera poyamba, koma pakapita nthawi zitha kuthandiza kuthetsa kapena kuchepetsa malingaliro olakwika. Zimagwiranso ntchito ngati chiyamikiro chabwino ku zochitika zina zomwe zili pamndandanda wathu.
8. Lumbira miseche
Njira imodzi yotsimikizira kuti chakukhosi chizikika mizu ndiyo kupitirizabe kuthera nthawi ndi mphamvu mukulankhula za munthu amene wayambitsa. Magazini Yabwino Kwambiri ikufotokoza njira zingapo zokhululukira; imodzi ndi lekani kunena zinthu zoipa kapena zoipa za gwero la mkwiyo wanu ndi mkwiyo wanu. Izi sizikutanthauza kuletsa kukambitsirana konse kwa munthu ameneyu, koma kumatanthauza kuluma lilime lanu pamene mukumva chikhumbo cha kubwerezanso nkhani yowawa (ie kubwerezanso nkhani yochititsa manyazi kuti anzanu aseke). Simukuyenera kuyimba matamando awo koma kuyesetsa kupeŵa mawu oyipa kudzakhazikitsa maziko a chikhululukiro.
Kusiya chakukhosi ndi mpikisano wothamanga, osati kuthamanga. Njira iliyonse pamndandanda wathu imagwira ntchito mosiyanasiyana ndipo sizingagwire ntchito kwa aliyense. Yesani chilichonse, tsatirani zomwe zimathandiza ndikusiya zina.
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