Pamene anyamata inu munakumana koyamba, zinali ngati buku la Nicholas Sparks. (Anakubweretserani maluwa ndi ma truffles! Anakusungirani chitseko! Anaonera nanu ziwonetsero zenizeni zapa TV, ngakhale zochititsa manyazi!) Koma popeza mwakhala limodzi kwa nthawi ndithu, simungadziwe ngati Kusokonekera paubwenzi ndi kwachilendo kapena ngati ndewu zomwe mukuchita sizili bwino. Chifukwa zikafika pakukula kwa maubwenzi, zimakhala zovuta kuzindikira zizindikiro za poizoni.
Si zachilendo kuti anthu amene ali m’maukwati opanda thanzi apereke zifukwa za khalidwe lawo (kapena la mnzawo) kapena kukana mmene zinthu zilili. Koma ngati mukukumana ndi nsanje nthawi zonse, kusatetezeka kapena nkhawa, ndiye kuti mukulowa m'gawo lowononga. Nayi njira ina yodziwira ngati mukulimbana ndi chikondi chapoizoni: Maubwenzi abwino amakupangitsani kukhala okhutira komanso olimbikitsidwa, pomwe maubwenzi oopsa amakupangitsani kukhala wokhumudwa komanso wotopa. Ndipo chimenecho chingakhale chinthu chowopsa. Mu kuphunzira kwa nthawi yayitali zomwe zinatsatira maphunziro oposa 10,000, ofufuza adapeza kuti anthu omwe anali ndi maubwenzi oipa anali pachiopsezo chachikulu chokhala ndi vuto la mtima (kuphatikizapo chochitika chakupha cha mtima) kusiyana ndi omwe maubwenzi awo apamtima sanali oipa. Ayi. Ngakhale kuti palibe ubale womwe ungakhale wosangalatsa komanso wopanda mikangano nthawi zonse, mumadziwa bwanji ngati wanu uli wopanda thanzi? Apa, njira zisanu ndi ziwiri zodziwira ngati muli pachiwopsezo.
Zogwirizana: MAWU 6 OMWE MUYENERA KULANKHULA MUNTHU WOYERA KUTI APEZE Mkhalidwewo
1. Mukupereka zambiri kuposa zomwe mukutenga.
Sitikutanthauza zinthu zakuthupi ndi manja akuluakulu, monga maluwa ndi truffles. Zimakhudzanso tinthu tating'ono tating'ono, monga kusisita msana popanda kufunsidwa, kutenga nthawi yofunsa za tsiku lanu kapena kukatenga ayisikilimu omwe mumakonda ku golosale-chifukwa choti. Ngati ndinu nokha amene mukuchita zinthu zapadera kwa wokondedwa wanu ndipo sakubwezerani kapena kubwezera (makamaka ngati mwalankhulana kale kuti izi ndi zomwe mukufuna), ingakhale nthawi yang'anirani ubalewo.
2. Mumada nkhawa mukakhala mulibe.
Mukakhala maola angapo kutali ndi mnzanuyo, mumadzipeza nokha kuyang'ana foni yanu, kukhala ndi vuto lopanga zisankho nokha ndikudandaula kuti chinachake chidzalakwika. Ngakhale poyamba munaganiza kuti ichi ndi chifukwa inu ayenera khalani limodzi (chilichonse chimayenda bwino mukakhala nonse awiri, kukumbatirana pakama), sizili choncho, akutero. Jill P. Weber, Ph.D. Ngati mumadzikayikira nokha, zikhoza kukhala chizindikiro chakuti mnzanuyo ali ndi moyo pa moyo wanu-ndi zisankho zomwe mumapanga-m'njira yoopsa.
3. Mumakangana za chinthu chomwecho sabata iliyonse.
Samachotsa zinyalala. Nthawi zonse mumakhala wotopa kwambiri kuti musatuluke Lachisanu. Ziribe kanthu kuti mutu weniweni wa mkangano ndi wotani, maanja ambiri amakhala ndi ndewu zochepa zomwe zimangobwera mobwerezabwereza. Koma ngati mukungokangana chifukwa chongokangana osalankhulana kwenikweni kuti vuto lalikulu ndi chiyani kapena kuchitapo kanthu kuti muthetsere zinthu nthawi ina, ubale wanu ukupita kudera lapoizoni.
4. Mumasunga chigoli.
Chochitika cha ‘kusunga zigoli’ ndi pamene wina amene muli pachibwenzi akupitiriza kukuimbani mlandu chifukwa cha zolakwa zomwe munapanga m’mbuyomu, akufotokoza motero. Mark Manson , wolemba wa Zojambula Zobisika Zosapereka F * ck . Mukathetsa vuto, ndi chizoloŵezi choopsa kwambiri kuti muvumbulutse mkangano womwewo mobwerezabwereza, ndi cholinga chokweza mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kumodzi (kapena kuchititsa manyazi). Chifukwa chake mudatuluka ndi anzanu chilimwe chatha, muli ndi ma Aperol spritzes atatu ndipo mwangozi munathyola nyali. Ngati munalankhulapo kale ndikupepesa, palibe chifukwa choti mnzanuyo azibweretsa nthawi zonse pamene inu ndi anzanu muli ndi tsiku lakumwa zakumwa.
5. Simunamve ngati inu posachedwapa.
Ubale wabwino uyenera kutulutsa zabwino kwambiri mwa inu. Pamene inu ndi mnzanuyo mukupita kovina, muyenera kudzimva ngati ndinu odzidalira, okongola komanso osasamala, osachita nsanje, osatetezeka kapena osanyalanyazidwa. Ngati mwamva choipitsitsa kuyambira pomwe mwakhala mukucheza ndi wokongoletsa wanu, pakhoza kukhala zinthu zoopsa zomwe zikuchitika.
6. Mumakhudzidwa kwathunthu ndi ubale.
Mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kusweka kwanu kwatsopano - simungasiye kuganizira za iye, ndipo zonse zomwe mumachita ndikumusangalatsa. Ngakhale kuti malingalirowa amatha kusokonezedwa ndi chikondi, Weber akufotokoza kuti ichi ndi chizindikiro chachikulu chaubwenzi. Muyenera kuzindikira kuti ubalewu ukukutengani umunthu wanu wonse, akutero. Mbendera yofiira kwambiri? Ngati muyamba kusunga wokondedwa wanu kutali ndi achibale anu ndi anzanu chifukwa choopa kuti sangamvetse ndipo angakuuzeni kuti musiyane naye. Khalani ndi nthawi nokha ndikukumbukira zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala musanayambe chibwenzi, kenako sankhani ngati pali malo a inu nonse ndi mnzanuyo kuti apitirize kukula ndikuchita bwino limodzi.
7. Mumamva ngati muli pamtunda.
Chikondi chapoizoni nthawi zambiri chimatanthauza kuyendayenda pakati pa kukwera kwamphamvu (chisangalalo ndi chilakolako) ndi kutsika kwakukulu (nkhawa ndi kupsinjika maganizo). Mumakondwera ndi zokwezeka koma nthawi zambiri mumakumana ndi zotsika. M’njira yokhotakhota, ndiko kusadziŵika bwino kwa kutengeka maganizo kwakukulu kumene kumapangitsa munthu kukakamira, monga wotchova juga wosapambana akuyembekeza kuti khadi lotsatira lidzatembenuza chirichonse, akutero Weber. Zindikirani njira iyi ndikutsika, akulangiza.
Ndiye ngati mwawona zizindikiro, mumachoka bwanji muubwenzi woyipa ? Chinthu choyamba ndikuvomereza kuti ndi ubale-osati inu -ndizolakwika. Kenako, funsani thandizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo kapena mlangizi. Kutuluka muubwenzi wosayenera ndi kovuta ( tengerani kwa wolemba uyu yemwe wachita izo ) ndi kutembenukira kwa katswiri kungakuthandizeni kupeza njira yabwino yopitira kutali ndi momwe mungamangirenso moyo wanu monga munthu wamphamvu, wosakwatiwa kachiwiri. Dzizungulireni ndi anthu abwino ndikuyika kudzikonda kwanu patsogolo. Mukufuna mawu olimbikitsa? Lolani izi mawu okhudza maubwenzi oopsa kukulimbikitsani.
Zogwirizana: CHINTHU CHIMODZI CHOSAFUNIKA KULANKHULA MUNTHU WOTSATIRA
