1. Imbani Imbirani Bwenzi Lomwe Mukukumbukira
Nthawi ina yapita, ndipo mulibe mawonekedwe ofanana ndi malingaliro a wakale wanu. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti amapeza chiphaso chodziwikiratu m'moyo wanu. Chinachake chinachitika kalelo chimene chinakupwetekani, ndipo ngakhale mutayiwala mmene munamvera chisoni, khalani otsimikiza kuti anzanu angakukumbutseni.
Mwina munasudzulana pazifukwa zomveka, Bromley akutiuza. Ngati kupatukanako sikuli kwatsopano, ndikosavuta kuiwala kapena kubisa chifukwa chake chifukwa nthawi imachiritsa mabala. Simukufuna kukhala ndi kamphindi aha pambuyo pake, pomwe mumakhala ngati, ‘ICHI n’chifukwa chake tinasiyana!’ Yambani ndi kulankhula ndi anthu amene anakudziwani pamene munali ndi wakale wanu. Tumizani mameseji kwa mtsikana wina n’kumufunsa kuti, ‘Kodi ndinawala bwino?’ ‘Kodi ndinasangalala?’ ‘Kodi ukuganiza kuti munthu ameneyu ndi wabwino kwa ine?’ ndipo penyani choonadi chikulowa.
2. Khulupirirani M'matumbo Anu
Mwachangu, kodi nkhope yanu idawoneka bwanji ex wanu atabwera kuchokera kwa akufa? Kodi munamwetulira? Kutembenukira kufiira? Pereka maso anu kumbuyo kwa chigaza chanu? Zimene anachita poyamba zinali zogwirizana ndi mmene inu nonse munasiyira.
Mungathe kuyankha malembawo ngati mutamaliza bwino ndipo mudakali ochezeka, akutero Sullivan. Komabe, ngati inu ndi okondwa kuti adakutumizirani mameseji, pali mwayi woti simunathe pa chibwenzicho ndipo mutha kukhalabe ndi chidwi chofuna kukonza zinthu. Koma ngati mukuwoneka kuti ndinu okwiya, okhumudwa kapena oda nkhawa, mwayi ndikuti ubalewo watha bwino ndipo simuyenera kuwononga nthawi yanu polankhula ndi munthu amene wakulakwirani kwambiri. Ndikupangira kusayankha chifukwa palibe chabwino chomwe chingabwere kuchokera pakulumikizana.
3. Yang'anani Kupitilira Mawu Pazenera
Ngati wakale wanu ndi wolankhula momasuka, angayambe kukulepheretsani kukumbukira zakale. Koma bwererani m'mbuyo, dziyeseni nokha ndikuyang'ana zochita zawo m'malo mwake. Kodi pali umboni uliwonse wosonyeza kuti asintha mmene amachitira ndi anzanu? Kodi salankhulanso ndi akazi anzawo mosayenera? Kodi aphunzira kukuyamikirani?
Yang'anani khama ndi zochita motsutsana ndi mawu, Bromley akutero. Mawu ndi osavuta. Khama lawo limasonyeza cholinga chenicheni. Musatengeke ndi ziyembekezo zanu. M'malo mwake, bwererani m'mbuyo ndikukhalabe ndi malingaliro.
4. Yesetsani Kudziletsa Pamene Ex Akulemba
Tikudziwa, mukangolemba zolemba zakale, zala zanu zimayamba kugwedezeka ndipo simungasiye kuganizira momwe mungayankhire. Mukufuna kuphulitsa foni yawo, koma m'malo momasanza zonse zomwe mwakhala mukuzilemba m'miyezi inayi yapitayi, dikirani kamphindi, mupume kwambiri ndipo ... osachita chilichonse.
Momwe zokambirana zimayambira-ndi zolemba zingati zomwe zimatumizidwa-nthawi zambiri zimatha kukupatsani lingaliro labwino la komwe likupita, akutero Sullivan. Kupatsa wakale wanu nthawi yoti alembetse chete pawindo lawo ndi mauthenga ambiri kungakhale ndendende zomwe mukufunikira kuti mudziwe zolinga zawo.
Onetsetsani kuti mulole wakale wanu azitsogolera zokambirana, Sullivan akupitiriza. Mwanjira imeneyi mungathe kudziwa kumene ikupita komanso cholinga chake.
5. Osadzimva Kukhala Wokakamizika Ngati Sikukutumikirani
Ndinu okondweretsa anthu, ndipo mumakonda kulandirira aliyense musanadzisamalire nokha. Pamene ex akufika ndipo matumbo anu amakuuzani kuti muthamange, musamve ngati muyenera kulemberananso mameseji kuti mukhale munthu wabwino.
Ngati cholinga chanu chiri ‘kuthetsa ndi kupitirizabe ndi chikondi,’ ndiye kuti simuli okakamizika kuyankha, akutero Bromley. Nthawi zina maubwenzi amafika pomaliza, ndipo zili bwino. Ngati zimakhala zowawa kulankhulana ndi wakale wanu, ndipo mulibe zochitika zowonjezera, monga ana, ndiye kuti ndikudzilemekeza kuti musayankhe ngati simukufuna.
Kumbukirani kuti mwina simunakhale woyamba muubwenzi umenewo—kapena konse ndi wakale wanu-koma inu nokha. Ngati chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino ndikusunthira kumanzere pa dzina lawo ndikudina kufufuta, muli ndi chithandizo chathu chonse.
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