Q: Ndi nthawi za mliri wapambuyo pa mliri ndipo ndili ndekhandekha nditakhala patali ngati mkazi wosakwatiwa kwa chaka chimodzi. M’nthaŵi Zakale, sindinkatsutsa kubweretsa munthu kunyumba kwanga ngati ndikufuna kusonkhana nawo, ngakhale nditangokumana nawo kumene. Tsopano, komabe, ndimadzimva kuti ndine wovuta komanso wodzidalira (zonse za momwe ndimayang'anira nditavala sweatpants kwa chaka chimodzi, ndipo basi, ngati, pa mlingo wa chitetezo). Thandizeni! Ndikumva kuti mojo wanga wogonana komanso wocheza nawo wasweka.
Rachel L., New Jersey
A: Rachel, ndiwe mkazi wabwino kwambiri. Osati athu okha—a fuko. Chifukwa aliyense wochiritsa, Katswiri wokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi mkazi wosakwatiwa yemwe tidalankhula naye adamva zambiri zomwe mumafotokoza Koma mwamwayi, alangiziwa ali ndi malangizo ndi zidule zowongolera zochitika zatsopano zapaulendo wokhala kwaokha, komanso nkhawa zanu.
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Choonadi #1: Simuli Nokha—Anthu Ambiri Akuda Nkhawa Zokhudza Kukhala ndi Chibwenzi ndi Kugonana Panopa
Malinga ndi ochizira kugonana Tammy Nelson , Makasitomala akuwonetsa nkhawa yayikulu yolowanso osati kuntchito komanso kucheza kokha komanso ku zizolowezi zawo zakale zogonana. Kutayika kwa luso lachiyanjano, kumeta tsitsi kwapakhomo, miliri yowonjezera, Nelson akulemba. Monga momwe zinthu zilili, anthu ambiri achita mantha.Chinthu choyamba, akatswiri amavomereza, ndicho kuvomereza kusapeza kwanu. Malinga ndi Vienna Farao , New York City, katswiri wa zaukwati ndi mabanja, Kuthana ndi nkhawa kumafuna kuti tizivomereza mofatsa kaye ndikukhala nazo nthawi. Ndi bwino kuti tizidziwe kusiyana ndi kuzikana ndi kuzibisa. (Anayambitsa nawo pulogalamu yapa intaneti yamisala yotchedwa Wanga kuthandiza makasitomala kuchita zomwezo.) Chikumbutso chachikulu ndikukumbukira kuti tonse tili mu izi. Kusatetezeka, mantha ndi kukaikira komwe mungakhale nako kumawonekeranso mwanjira ina kwa [ofuna kukhala nawo] nawonso, akutero.
Choonadi #2: Kuyeserera Kumapangitsa Kukhala Kwangwiro
Ndiye mukangowona nkhawa zanu, mumadutsa bwanji? Baby masitepe, anati Emily Morse, kugonana podcaster ndi Dr. Ruth wa m'badwo watsopano malinga ndi New York Times . Patatha chaka chochezerana, ambiri aife tayiwala kukopana komanso kucheza ndi IRL. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti mukamachita masewera olimbitsa thupi mudzakhala amphamvu komanso achigololo kuposa kale. Pa gawo laposachedwa la podcast yake Kugonana ndi Emily , amakumbutsa omvera kuti ayang'ane ndi munthu amene amamukonda, alankhule naye kuchokera kutsogolo kuti asawadzidzimutse ndi kuwatsutsa (koma osati m'njira yowopsya yaku Hollywood) pamene akulankhula kuti adziwe kuti ndinu chidwi.
Kapenanso, akatswiri akuwonekeratu kuti simuyenera kudzimenya nokha ngati simukuyenda pamiyendo - kapena kukhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi anzanu ambiri - monga mudachitira mliri usanachitike. Austin, Tammy Shaklee wochokera ku Texas, wothandizira wa LGBTQ komanso woyimira komanso mwini wake H4M ntchito matchmaking, akuti ine ndekha ndikuganiza m'mbuyomu prolific mbedza-mmwamba chikhalidwe wakhala pang'ono, osachepera panopa. Ndikumva osakwatiwa akukhala ozindikira. Kutanthauza, ngati izi zitha kukhala pachiwopsezo, kodi ndi munthu amene ndingamuike pachiwopsezo? Kungotenga katemera mozama sizikutanthauza kuti mnzanu wachita chimodzimodzi. Ngati afotokoza zifukwa zawo zokanira katemerayu, kodi munthuyu ndi woyenera kulumikizidwa?
Choonadi #3: Dzifotokozereni Inu Nokha ndi Tsiku Lanu
M'malo mofunsa mafunso ambiri, ndimamva anthu akufunsa KODI munali ndi COVID liti? Kodi katemera wanu wachiwiri anajambulidwa tsiku liti? Shaklee akuti. Anthu ochulukirapo [akuchita] udindo wawo kuti awonetsetse kuti patha milungu iwiri kuchokera pomwe adawombera kachiwiri. Tikuyang'ana zizindikiro za udindo, kudziletsa komanso kuchita khama pa umoyo waumwini ndi wa anthu.
Katswiri wa zaukwati ndi mabanja a Pharaon amavomereza kuti: Kaya mukuyang'ana china chake chachikulu, nthawi yosangalatsa yachilimwe kapena kulumikizana, ndikofunikira kuti mumvetsetse zomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale omasuka komanso otetezeka. Khalani ndi nthawi yoganizira zomwe zili zofunika kwa inu: Kodi mumasamala ngati wina walandira katemera? Kodi mumangokonda anthu omwe ali pachibwenzi ndi munthu mmodzi panthawi imodzi? Kodi mukufuna kudziwa zambiri za moyo wawo kuti muwone ngati zimakusangalatsani? Amalimbikitsanso kuti ngakhale zibwenzi zapaintaneti kapena za IRL sizifunikira kusintha kwambiri chifukwa cha nkhawa za COVID, Ndibwino kuti muyambe pang'onopang'ono pomwe dongosolo lanu likuzolowera ndikudzifufuza nokha komanso momwe mukumvera mukamasambira, kutumiza mameseji ndi chibwenzi. . Mwanjira imeneyo, kubwereranso ku-madeti amunthu si njira yokhayo yobwereranso ku kugonana, komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pakuwongolera chidziwitso chanu pazomwe mumachita ndi zomwe simukonda muubwenzi, ngakhale ubalewo ndi womwe umakhalapo. maola ochepa okha.
Katswiri wathu yemwe timakonda, komabe, alibe chochita ndi ntchito yamkati yomanga ulemu. Zimachokera kwa wopanga machesi Shaklee, ndipo ndi imodzi yomwe titha kukumbatira - kugula. Monga akunenera, Ngati inu, monga ambiri aife, mwapeza Covid 15 kapena 20 mapaundi, ndiye [tulukani mukagule] zovala zabwino, zowoneka bwino komanso zowoneka bwino komanso zamkati zomwe zimagwedeza ma curve atsopanowa.
Ndipotu, pang'ono ritelo mankhwala konse kuvulaza aliyense.
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