Amene Amapanga Maulosi Odzikwaniritsa Okha
M’dziko la anthu odziwononga okha, anthu odziwononga ameneŵa amadziletsa m’njira zosiyanasiyana.
1. Wozengereza
Uyu ndi munthu yemwe amangoyika zinthu nthawi zonse ndikudikirira mpaka mphindi yomaliza. Khalidweli limawononga nthawi kapena limapanga nthawi yopanda phindu, limawapangitsa kukhulupirira kuti atha kukwaniritsa pongoika zinthu m'mbuyo komanso osawalola kupita patsogolo.
2. Woganiza Mopambanitsa
Munthu uyu amaganiza zonse mpaka imfa m'njira yomwe imatsindika kwambiri zoipa. Ngakhale chinthu chaching’ono chingasinthe n’kukhala maganizo oda nkhawa. Khalidweli limachotsa chidaliro chawo ndikupanga kudzikayikira kosalekeza, kumawaganizira kwambiri pazoyipa ndikukhazikitsa uneneri wodzikwaniritsa. Zimawakakamiza kuti afune kuwongolera ndi kutsimikizika.
3. The Assume
Woganiza ndi munthu amene nthawi zonse amalosera zam'tsogolo ndikuchita zomwe amalosera asanaone ngati akwaniritsidwa. Iwo amasankha mmene angamve, zimene zidzachitike ndiponso mmene anthu adzachitire asanalowe m’mavuto. Zimawalepheretsa kuchitapo kanthu komanso kuwapangitsa kukhala osakhazikika. Zimawatsekera ku mwayi watsopano, ndipo siziwalola kuti adziwonetsere kuti ali olakwa.
Mmene Mungagonjetsere Izo
Mukayang'ana The Procrastinator, The Overthinker ndi The Assumer, onse amakukhazikitsani kuti mukhulupirire zomwe sizingakhale zoona. Popeza amapanga maulosi odzikwaniritsa, mumamaliza kukhulupirira kuti zotsatira zake ndi zoona chifukwa simudzipatsa mwayi wotsimikizira kuti ndizolakwika. Mwachitsanzo, ngati ndinu wongoyerekeza, mungaganize kuti sindikasangalala paphwando limenelo kotero kuti ndisapite. Njira yabwino yosinthira ndondomekoyi ndikuyankha ndi chinthu chotchedwa Opposite Action. Ili ndi lingaliro lakuyankha mosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe kudziwononga kwanu kumakuuzani kuti muchite. Ngati kudziwononga kwanu kukunena kuti mumagwira ntchito bwino mukapanikizika kotero muyenera kuzengereza, sankhani kutero tsopano m'malo mozisiya. Ngati kudziwononga kwanu kukuwuzani kuti wina samakukondani ndiye kuti simuyenera kuyimbira foni, chitani zomwezo ndikumuyimbira foni. Lingaliro apa ndikudzipatsa nokha zambiri ndi umboni kuti ndikuwonetseni ndendende komwe kudziwononga kwanu kukukutsogolerani molakwika ndikupanga malingaliro atsopano.
Amene Amachotsa Zinthu Zabwino M'miyoyo Yawo
Kudziwononga nthawi zonse kumawoneka ngati kupewa zinthu zomwe zingakufikitseni komwe mukufuna kupita. Ena odziononga, m’malo moganiza zotuluka m’zinthu, kuika zinazake m’mbuyo kapena kuyang’ana mtsogolo mwawo moipa, angathe kuchita khama kuchotsa zinthu zabwino m’moyo wawo. Mitundu itatu yotsatirayi yodziwononga ndiyo: The Avoider, The Self-Protector ndi The Control Freak.
4. Wopewa
Ozipewa nthawi zambiri amadzipatula kuzinthu zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa kapena kuwathamangitsira kunja kwa malo otonthoza. Kutero kumachepetsa mwayi wokulirapo, kumalimbitsa mantha ndikuchotsa mwayi wabwino ndi wosangalatsa komanso zokumana nazo pamoyo.
5. Wodziteteza
Uyu ndi munthu yemwe nthawi zonse amaphimbidwa ndi zida zofanizira. Amakhala maso nthawi zonse chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti chiwopsezo chitha kuchitika paliponse. Zotsatira zake, maubwenzi awo achikondi omwe alibe kuya kwenikweni, malingaliro kapena nthawi zambiri, moyo wautali.
6. The Control Freak
Anthu awa amakonda kuwonetsetsa kuti asadabwe kapena kudzidzimuka. Amafuna kukhala okonzeka pazochitika zilizonse ndi kuyanjana, ndipo njira yawo yochitira izi ndikuwongolera chilichonse chomwe angathe. Chotsatira chake, iwo amakonda kupeŵa zochitika zomwe sangathe kuzilamulira ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mantha chifukwa cha izi zimachepetsa mwayi wakukula. Izi zimalimbitsa nkhawa zawo ndikuchepetsa zomwe amacheza komanso mwayi wocheza nawo.
Mmene Mungagonjetsere Izo
Mitundu yonseyi yodziwononga yomwe imachotsa zinthu zabwino m'miyoyo yathu imatero chifukwa cha mantha. Chifukwa chake, njira yothanirana ndi izi ndikukumana ndi manthawo kudzera mudeensitization mwadongosolo. Iyi ndi njira yodziwonetsera pang'onopang'ono kuzinthu zina zowopsa izi kuti muchepetse kuyankha kwamantha. Ganizirani za zochitika zomwe zimabweretsa mantha ndikuziyika m'dongosolo lopanda mantha mpaka lowopsa kwambiri. Yambani ndi chinthu chotsikitsitsa ndikudziwonetsera nokha pazochitikazo kwinaku mukudekha polankhula nokha, njira zopumula kapena kusinkhasinkha. Mukakhala omasuka mumkhalidwe umenewo ndikuchotsa mantha, mukhoza kusuntha makwerero anu.
Omwe Amadzichepetsera Kudzifunira Kwawo
Mitundu yam'mbuyomu yodziwononga nthawi zambiri imaphatikizapo kuchotsa zinthu: kupeŵa vuto lomwe lingakhale lovuta, kudzilankhula nokha pazinthu zomwe zingakhale zabwino pakukula kwanu kapena kukankhira kutali chilichonse chomwe simungathe kuchiwongolera. Kudziwononga nthawi zambiri kumatenga njira yosiyana, ndikudziunjikira pazambiri zoipa kapena malingaliro omwe amakupusitsani kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zanu. Pamapeto pake, njira iyi imachepetsa kawonedwe kanu m'njira yofanana ndi ya mitundu yopewera kudziwononga-mumalimbitsa lingaliro lakuti simuli woyenera kupeza zomwe mukufuna, zomwe zimakulepheretsani kuyesera. Iwo ndi: The Overindulger, The Self-Critic, ndi The Perfectionist.
7. Woledzeretsa
Mtundu umenewu ukusoŵeka m’chiyembekezo ndi kulinganizika, kutanthauza kuti mwina ‘azimitsa’ kapena ‘ayatsa.’ Iwo kwenikweni amakonda kutembenuza pang’ono kukhala zambiri ndipo amakonda kuona zinthu mwachikuda ndi choyera. Izi zimawalepheretsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo ndikuwakhazikitsa kuti akhulupirire kuti alibe kudziletsa, kupanga khalidwe lopanda kanthu.
8. Wodzitsutsa
Awa ndi anthu omwe nthawi zonse amasanthula machitidwe awo ndikudzimenya okha. Amakonda kunyalanyaza umboni womwe uli wabwino ndikugogomezera umboni wosonyeza kuti ndi olakwika kapena owonongeka. Lingaliro lamtunduwu limawapangitsa kukhala odzidalira ndipo amawapangitsa kukhala osafuna kudzikakamiza ndikutuluka.
9. Wofuna Ungwiro
Munthu uyu ali ndi malingaliro abwino pa chilichonse; muyezo umene nthawi zonse amayesetsa kukumana nawo kapena kukhala nawo. Lingaliro ili limapanganso njira yoti anthu azitha kuchita chilichonse kapena ayi-kupangitsa kuti azipewa ndikuwapangitsa kuti azidzidzudzula okha komanso kudziukira.
Mmene Mungagonjetsere Izo
Chifukwa masitayelo onse owonongawa amachepetsa kudzidalira kwathu, pamakhala ubale wa nkhuku ndi mazira pakati pawo ndi kudzidalira kwathu kwathunthu: Maganizidwe awa amatha kutsitsa kudzidalira kwathu, ndipo kudzidalira kumatha kubereka izi. masitayilo oganiza. Chifukwa chake, njira yabwino yogonjetsera izi ndikumanga chidaliro. Lingalirani kupanga mndandanda wazomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala odabwitsa, apadera komanso apadera ndikuwunikanso tsiku lililonse. Tengani nthawi tsiku lililonse kuti muzindikire zoyesayesa zanu, zomwe mwachita bwino komanso zomwe mumanyadira.
Dr. Candice Seti ndi dokotala, wolemba, wokamba nkhani, mphunzitsi komanso yemwe kale anali yo-yo dieter yemwe wadzipereka kuthandiza ena kukhala ndi thanzi labwino komanso kukhala ndi thanzi labwino pamene akupeza kudzidalira, kusiya kudziwononga ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zawo. Iye ndi mlembi wa Buku la Self-Sabotage Behavior Workbook ndi Sambani Yoyo . Mpezeni pa intaneti pa meonlybetter.com .
